NikkiHendrix's

advice column

about

advice

soo me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex for the first time soon. it will be my first time, but not his. what do i need to know?

1. Most IMPORTANTLY make sure that you are most definatly in love with each other and you are not just having sex to be cool or to ease sexual frustration.

2. Use protection. Be as careful about it as possible. If you're able to, get a pill. Whether it's birth control or the morning after pill just to be safe. And OF COURSE he DEFINATLY should wear a condom.

3. Make sure that the place you chose to have it is secure and safe and no one will intrude. You want to keep this private. No one else deserves to know anything about this than the both of you.

and lastly...

4. TAKE IT SLOW! The first time is msot likely not going to be your best time. It's going to hurt and there's going to be a lot of "getting used to." He needs to know your bounderies and you need to know his. He needs to make sure he doesn't hurt you or make you feel uncomfortable. If it's your first time then you will bleed because he is taking your virginity and "popping your cherry" so make sure you don't get fluids on places you don't want them to be.

Good luck!
Nikki.

[view]