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I was waiting in the hallway with the other jazz band people to start our sectional class. We have to wait like an hour, so we sit there and drink the free sodas we get from the teachers who feel bad for us and listen to music. So this one guy was looking through my friends phone, and came across a name with over 200 texts messages sent to it; and this name with over 200 texts messages to it happened to be a huge crush of mine. The person who had been looking through my phone annouced that my friend sent a lot of text messages to this guy, and we were all laughing and I was saying "ooooooooh!!" . But then my friend pointed at me and said loudly "You have a crush on him!!" and then I think it got quieter. Then I started babbling, saying I didn't have a crush on him, and I could feel my face turning bright red. I was fully aware that the hallway was full of my crushes friends. After that the conversation shifted, and I realized how hurt I was. That friend, who blurted out my crush, is my best friend and we tell everyything to each other. And we pinky swear (or pointer swear, because my pinky hasn't bent right since band camp) that we'll never tell anyone about anything we want to keep private, like our crushes. And she completly broke our promise! We both tried pretending it never happened after that. But a half hour later, when I was getting up to go to my sectional, she pulled me over and said "I didn't mean what I said", and I got up and responded, without looking at her, "You still said it". She then called after me "And then the drama begins!" After my rehearsal, as I was packing up, she waved and playfully bumped into me, but i just ignored her. When I got in the car I saw that she had sent a text soon after she blurted out that crush apologizing. I responded with a long text explaining that it matter whether she meant it or not, what mattered is that she said it in a room full of his friends. I then told her she needed to fix her mistake, so she said she would convince my crushes friends that I didn't like him.
Should I trust that she will follow through?
How do I forgive her?
How do I see my crush tommorow in homeroom?
Should i start being more careful around my crush? (link)
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The following statement is a opinion;
DON'T HAVE HER COONVINCE HIS FRIENDS YOU DON'T LIKE HIM SILLY! If you do like him, and he thinks you don't - you'll lose all chances with him. Generally guys figure there's a 50/50 chance whether you like them or not. If you illiminate that chance incorrectly, the guy won't even think anything of you. Little to girls know (I only know because I hang out with guys and have like no female friends) that guys think about going out with every girl they are friends with. And decide if it would work out (and ask their friends sometimes). If you have it put out that you don't like him at all, he'll automatically take you out of the list of maybes. If he hears this as a rumour, he may either ignore it or think about being with you more. And put more thought into the hypothetical date with you. Which may heighten your chances with him. About facing him, go on like it doesn't matter. Like it was never said. But during class see if he pays more attention to you than usual. And many times guys only tell guys a girl likes them (when it's said like what happened to you) is if the guy was thinking about it already - otherwise it can get a little annoying. Guys don't like a lot of He said/she said drama. And no, don't be more careful around your crush - you'll be seen as acting weird, which you deffinately don't want. And yeah, forgive your friend. But if things don't go well with your crush - put her through a LITTLE hell first. But don't stoop to her level. Signs this guy is putting serious thought into dating you are looking at you more often than usual, smiling a lot. In the hallway between classes you see him more (he doesn't have to talk to you, but if he seems to be everywhere - that's good!) If he confronts you about it, watch him while he talks. his lips - are they serious, a slight smile, or a cocky grin? Is he looking at your lips while you talk? Is he focusing only on you? He he turned towards you, full on? You don't have to tell him "YES I HAVE A CRUSH ON YOU!" nor lie and say you don't. Ask him slyly, "what do you think?" and see how he responds. Tell him how your friend was just picking on you and trying to make you blush (not really a lie, but hints that you don't like him). Watch if his face falls or not. If it falls, he probably likes you. He may catch that you didn't deny it, not many guys do but there are a few. If he catches it, does he get really happy about it? If he does, it's probably not becaue he's proud of himself that he caught that. Just go with the flow, see what happens. You never know - this could be a good thing (: Feel free to ask if you need more help. Good luck.
-Mother Hubbard
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So I want to text this guy, but I don't know how to start a conversation. We usually talk on Saterdays after I have tournaments, but now the seasons over and we have nothing to talk about!
How can I start a conversation without coming of as creepy.
Also, what could we talk about.
I kind of like him and I know he is interested in me but doesn't really like me. Hopefully, YET!! So anyway, what to sayyy!!
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You can start with the normal conversations people have;
hey, hey. sup, nm you? nm.
and move on to something like what you been up to? or how something like that. hey, he might even come up with a topic (:
don't let logic bring you down, just wing it (: you talk to your friends with a well organized list of topics, so don't do that with him. Talk to him like he's just another friend, especially if you want him to be more ;) relax and just go with the flow. good luck.
-Mother Hubbard
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I'm a 15 year old female physically active with very soon-to-be 18 year old guys. One is a fuck buddy who raped me at age 14 but for some reason after it all happened I was too confused to leave. The other's my good friend. They're both 18 in less than a month. Is this illegal and, if so, am I putting either of them in any danger?
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Actually, either way it is illegal - if you get caught, you'll get in trouble. But if they are eighteen and you are still active - it is seen as rape (whether you say yes or no) in the court's eyes, and they will get into a lot of trouble.
Also, do you really want to stay with a guy who has raped you? You don't neccissarily have to report it, but I think it would be a good idea to leave him (and report it if he won't leave you alone - he can't threaten you with anything except physical, because he would be the one that would get into trouble). It's completely your choice though, that's simply my opinion - it's your life though. good luck.
-Mother Hubbard
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