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Q: hi guys im sorry if this is long but i dont no what to do anymore
this might sound like a high school fling thing but i went out with this guy for almost a year and then we broke up and now hes moved on so quickly and has another gf and i havent moved on at all i still like him but we both agreed to be friends but i cant stand talking to him because it hurts so much he doesnt understand that everytime i talk to him i think of what we had so should i not talk to him and let it go because i tried that and he says that if i dont want to talk to him now i should forget about him altogether or should i just try and be friends and get over my hurt that way? we both loved each other so much and i pushed him away and he got scared and left i try thinking of how bad he treated me sometimes but all i think of is all the really fun things we did together i dont know what to do maybe i just want someone there for me? i dont no please help

I can understand how your hurting. And its very hard to change the way your feeling. You just need to be strong. Just think about how easily it took him to move on! Obviously, you care for him more than he cares for you. You just need to be stronger and be more confident and positive with yourself. Its normal for you to miss him, and feel for him still. But you need to ask yourself were you 100& happy? Im sure you are a pretty lovely girl, and i bet you feel a bit rejected by him as well. The only advice i can give you is to BE STRONG and move on. Is he worth your pain?

Q: somehow I always end up having really short relationships. Half the time its because of me I end up breaking up with them. And when I mean short I mean days/week or two. I dont kno whats wrong with me. I want a lasting relationship. Maybe my standerds are to high. It just seems to me that I need a guy that will be there for me because im so clincaly depressed I cant have them not call for days or not see them for a long time its just to hard on me.

I just broke up with my bf and now i feel bad because what if he was suposed to be mysoul mate? but I couldnt stay with him because I questiond him and I questiond being with someone
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Whats wrong with me? what should I do?

I really want someone to be there for me. A guy I want a bf that will last.

Seems like you may have some issues that you need to explore. Your self esteem makes you very insecure about yourself and relationships. You seem like your very scared about being hurt. You wont be able to trust anyone until you feel good and comfortable within yourself. You need to look after yourself and find ways to have a positive attitude everyday. I would need you to explain a bit more about how you are feeling to give you more advice, otherwise i think you need to let out all your problems and start a fresh new life and be motivated. Message me if you would like to continue furthur..

Q: how do you know when it's time to end a relationship? how do you know if its just a rocky time in the relationship or if its falling apart?

Best thing to do is ask your partner how they are feeling, you need to communicate together to work out where the relationship is going. Ask your partner how they feel in the relationship, and express how you are feeling also. Communication is so important in a relationship..

Q: My boyfriend is naturally really skinny and with that he's worked for a nice body. As to that I feel somewhat intimidated. ok alot. I want to get a flat tummy I'm not ask for no 6 pack or anything just a nice firm tight stomach.

Can andybody give me a list and how much of what I should and the names of the excercises. Like a shedule.

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Go to your local gym and they can write you up a program. They will tell you exactly what excersises to do to suit your body and show you how to achieve it. Be motivated and you can do it.