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My name is Michelle, my nickname is Emi, call me which ever name if you want. I'm 14 years old, a freshman in High school. I'm awesome with advice and helping people out. I play volleyball, softball and I do cheerleading. You're problems come before mine so ask away with anything that you need, i'm always here!

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ok i need ur help on something my boyfriend asked me to marry him and im only 17 bout to be 18 an im a girl but i like him and all and im preg. with his baby i just dont know what to do because if i do my dad isn't going to want anything to do with me anymore and if i dont then my dad will still alow me to be in my family but my dad doesn't like him and i dont know why not he is a sweet heart and i love him with all of my heart and everytime i go out with someone my dad never likes them and i dont see why not because he hasn't even got to meet my boyfriend yet he has meet him once and that is to only say hi but please i dont know what to do can you please help me out a little i would really appriciate that
Tosha


Okay, calm down. Your dad doesn't like them because your his baby. Usually dad's are like that. It's normal. Your dad doesn't like your boyfriend, or soon to be fiance because he was the one who got you pregant. You might be messing up your life with having this baby at this time of your life because it's so early and you haven't even gotten through college yet. Dad probably thinks that you had a lot going for you and that you're screwing it up. You need to marry the baby's father, that would be the proper thing to do seeing how your having his baby. If your dad can't accept that your not doing what YOUR DAD wants, then there's a problem. You're trying to do the best thing that you can for the baby right now. I give you a lot of respect for trying to be there for your baby. Not a lot of girls can do that. Just stick for what you want, but don't kill that baby and take care of it. You are the reason why it's here, and murder's a sin

Emi

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about 4 years ago, when i was 11 i met this guy, he is 4 years older than me. he was a counselor at one of the many camps i go to. he helped me a lot with stuff at camp, but after that week, i barely ever talked to him, until 2 years ago. he would call me every few months, and we would just catch up on things, and you know, just talk. he was a great counselor, but even better, he is a Christian and that helps me out so much because he can give me insight from what he knows God might say. He built me up, and helped me through many deaths of friends and friends families. he always knew what to say and when to say it. this past summer we have been EXTREMELY close, we talked almost 5 times a week. id would go visit him because he lives hours away from me. but i could only get up there a few times, and he only came down to me once. it wasnt much effort on his part, ive always realized that. well when he was helping me through a really hard time i was having one night, we decided we would be like brother and sister. he seemed to always be there and always ready to help me out. now after school has started and hes gone off to college im having a really hard time cause he never calls. just the onther night i finally wrote him and told him everything! i had to get out to HIM what i felt. i thought that things again would change... guess not... he still doesnt call, and doesnt make any effort to really talk. it bothers me so much... i love him like a brother more than anyone can ever imagine, but what can i do? i want him to be my number one.... but everyone of my friends that i live with dispise me that i have someone like this in my life...or had someone like that. even my best friend is harsh on me for thinking about him a lot. my real question is should i give up waiting for him to possibly return... or should i keep waiting..... ???
((i think you might know who i am))
*lil sis*


I know it's hard what you're going through, to hold onto someone that is very close to you, who doesn't seem like they are there anymore. He's helped you through some of your toughest times, and he has been one of only a few whom you can trust. It sounds like he's in college, which means lots of studies and crictuliar activities. Give it and him some time, as the saying goes "Keep on Keeping on" don't let him go, but don't hold onto that phone and expecting it to ring all the time. Praying will only help you and your situation. I'd say he's busy with school work and he might have some problems of hsi own, it's not you're fault, but maybe he can only take on his problems right now, and he may think that by you calling or writing that you might have a problem and he's not quite ready to handle on someone else, plus himself right now. College are suppose to be the supposible "fun years" but can be very hard and stressful. Let him come to you. All you can do is pray and keep having fun with your friends. All you can do is wait, and i'm not saying it WON'T be hard, because it will. Part of your heart is breaking because he's a big piece of your life. Try to glue some of the pieces back on, and when he comes back, all will be fair. Just hold on, and let the rollercoaster go it's ride, it might be bumpy, but it will get smoothe.

Hope I helped.. ( i love you ) yes i know who you are.

Emi*

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okay, i've done out with this boy lets say.. *mike* 2 times. once one year, and once the next. i've liked him for like 3 years. the first time he asked me out, it lasted 3 months, and i dumped him for reasons that werent his fault. the 2nd time i asked him out and he dumped me for my friend but he totally like hates it now. so now this year we both like eachother and i still really like him but should i just give up on going out with him or what?? i dont know what to do? this may sound dumb and i dont really know how to explain it but if you get it then please help me! lol thanx sorry its so long

I think both of you are coming back to eachother for a reason, "everything happens for a reason". I think that's so cool that you guys keep falling for eachother. I think you should give it another shot, see what happens, what's the worst that could happen? You both have liked eachother for quite sometime now, give it another shot. You guys might be *Meant* to be if it's been going on for this long, now.

Hope i helped
*emi

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Well there's this girl who I dated and me and her went through a stage of hating eachother after we broke up and now we're cool again and i said i hated her before but i didnt at all and now that we're cool im just wondering how i should act around her? I still love her alot and i want to be with her again but im not sure how she feels and i dont really want to know rite now but i dont know how i should act towards her to get her to want to be with me again...if you could help me out then thank you very much.

16 yr old dude


Just give you and her some time to think things through of how you and her feel about eachother because you both just got out of it sounds a serious relationship. For right now, be friends, discuss things. But if you two want to get back together, or she likes you again. Talk about what happened and how you both feel. Just act like you normally would, but be a good friend, she needs someone she can talk to, and someone thats sensitive.

Hope I helped..
*Emi*

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hey well....my ex boyfriend and me were best friends b4 we went out...(the entire reason i didnt wanna date him) but now that we broke up after almost a year of dating every time i read something about relationships being torn apart i break down and cry...but now that he broke up with me ive started to cut myself and go into deep depressions...i want him bak bc when i was with him...there was never a time when i wasnt happy...he could make me smile no matter how sad i was...he might have made a few mistakes but so have i...i juss want him to b happy but i also juss want him to say that in order for him to b happy he needs to b with me...i also started smokking when he broke up with me...idk what to do...my life is going to hell since he broke up with me...idk waht to do...i want him bak but i want him to b happy...

signed ~*lost...

P.S.- y cant i b happy???


I had my first love last year, it's a tough time.. We were friends at first then grew to more than that. It will be a tough road ahead. Talk to people about how you feel, don't keep things locked up inside of you, because if something happens then it will all blow way out of proportion. Cutting yourself and smoking wont resolve anything, you're begging for attention. I think you need to go to a counselor and get things straightened out, or better yet, talk to him about how you feel and how close you two were before this all happened and what it meant to you. You can't force him to be with you, and I don't expect you to force him. But I respect what you said about how you want him to be happy, because he does need to be. You have to think about waht he wants now. It will be a long road ahead before you get over him, but I promise you, you will never forget him. Keep youre head up. Stop the cutting and quit the smoking, it will only make things worse. Tell him how you feel, alone.

Hope I helped.
Emi*

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i guess this might be a stupid question, but something kind of depresses me. my boyfriend asked me last night would it be okay if he spent new years with his guys this year. he said that him and i spent the last 2 new years together and he wants to hang with his friends. ofcourse i said yeah, because im not the controling type. well, even though i said yes, it makes me a little sad knowing that he doesnt want to spend it with me. its like, why cant i chill with his friends too? its not like i never had. do any of you guys think i should tell him how i feel? or do any of you think that im wrong for feeling the way i feel?

thanks for your time.
18/f

No, it's normal to over react about that, especially since you two have been together for a long time. Maybe somethings up. Or maybe he just wants to spend it with the guys and do guy stuff, you know? I think you should talk to him about it, but be respectful and hear him out. You don't need this to turn into a huge deal/fight. Just hear what he has to say but also tell him how you feel. It's normal feeling that way.

Hope I helped,
Emi*

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