My name is Lime Pariah. The first thing people usually ask me about is my name so I'll get that over with first. I was named after my great-grandfather, Lihmen Pariah. A very noble deed to name your child after one of your forefathers, except for when it rhymes with a part of the female anatomy that is usually associated with losing one's virginity. Yes even I, Lihmen Pariah, was teased relentlessly by my schoolmates. So I shortened my name to Lime. Ironically, my surname means outcast, which suited me rather well during those dreadful years. Oh the pain, the pain...
You may be wondering what qualifies me to answer life's most burdensome questions. Not a single thing. I have no qualifications. I am just an opinionated mofo who is never afraid to admit when I am right. You may not like me for this but that's OK. Most days you'll find that I occupy relatively good headspace so my suggestions may even come across as empathetic. Other days I might just call it as it is by stating the blunt truth as direct as it may be. Anyhow, fire away. Let the questions begin.
Lime Pariah
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first off, this may be long so i apologize but i hope people will help me outa bit.
we are both twenty years old.
i've been with my boyfriend for a little over four years. even though we broke up in february we still act like we're still together. basically, its like we're bf/gf without the label but it's like everyone including myself still consider us together anyway. kind of confusing, sorry. anyway, the problem between me and him is that even though we dont have the label that he feels that it's okay for him to talk to other girls. which i can understand at some extent.. however, i feel as though even if we dont have the label that he's my boyfriend and vice versa. if im the girl sleeping in his bed for weeks straight at a time, the girl he calls and texts every few hours when we aren't together just to ask what im doing, the girl who he takes out on dates on the one day out of the week he's not working, the girl who hangs out with his mom and other family members when he is or isn't around, the girl he tells that he loves every night before he goes to bed, IM HIS GIRLFRIEND. and the list goes on. we've talked and argued about this so many times already and it always ends the way it always does with him saying that he loves me, that he's in love with me, that im the woman he wants to marry and the woman he wants to have his children with (although that will not be any time soon) but he's not ready to be committed at this age and that he is going to talk to other girls regardless. okay. maybe i seem dumb or something but some days im just like okay whatever, im content because i know that even if he may be talking to another female, i'm still his number one and that he will never put another girl before me. other days it just bothers the hell out of me.. i just feel like if i'm the woman he loves and wants to be with in the future, why do something to ruin the chances of what we may have? i know people may say "girl, he doesn't love you." i'm not being naive when i say this but i know he's in love with me, but he feels he's just at the age where he's just not ready to commit yet. people tell me that just having the label is too much for a person to deal with. i dont know.. him and i, we honestly have two different outlooks on almost everything (and i love that) and i'm here trying to understand his point of views with what you guys think about all of this. i'm sorry i am babbling.. i'm just very in love and very confused and everything in between. your advice and comments are most definitely appreciated. thankss so much. (link)
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It sounds to me like this guy is a first rate bum. You are compromising what you expect and deserve in a relationship so he can go mess around. This guy wants the benefits of having you as a girlfriend without giving you a commitment in return. Not wanting to be in a committed relationship is OK. Holding on to you while he plays the field is not. Dump this guy and date someone who will give you the respect you deserve. Maybe he'll see what he has lost and will change his wandering ways. If he doesn't, move forward and don't look back.
Hope it works out,
Lime
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