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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends)

Hm, I don't think you should choose neither one of them. From what I read on your question, I could tell how much you love the both of them, and as you've said, it would hurt them if you make a decision. Best friends (True ones) are hard to come by, they're like diamonds in a desert, really. And the love of your life is no less important nor more important than true friends. Don't choose if the outcome won't help you in the end. It's not like you can turn the clock back and make another choice or take another path. And I must also mention how stubborn your husband is.
Anyway. After reading your description, I did get an idea.
Why don't you cut your day in half?
As, spend half of your day at your friend's wedding and half with your husband.
Or be present at your friend's wedding during the day, and at night be with your husband.
Try telling your friend that you can't be with her all day, if she's not as stubborn as your husband and is an understanding person, it should go fine.
And as for your husband, I suggest that you don't tell him anything and make it a surprise, take him out for a romantic dinner at night or something, spend the rest of the night with him?
That's all the advice I have.
Hope it goes well.
- LaMarionnette.

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For a while now, I've liked my guy friend as more than a friend, but I'm not sure he likes me back.
He always reads my blog when no one else does, and he talks to me when I sit next to him in lessons. When I sit next to him, he acts comical and does things like take my ruler or swap out pens.
He sometimes leans on me when he's talking to the boy sitting the other side of me, and our elbows will often be touching for minutes at a time (with neither of us moving them).
I sometimes see him looking at me, and when he talks to me when we sit opposite each other, he often looks at me in the eyes.
We like the same things, so he often messages me links about them,, or puts funny things.

What do you think? What should I do to subtly tell him I like him as more than a friend, if I should?

Thanks :)

The fact that he reads your blog could be because he pays special attentions to you, Could be because you're close as girl friends, Or because he has some interests in you. He could be trying to make you comfortable being with him. His behavior is so similar to one of my friend, 'Puppy-like-boy-friend'.
If you want him to notice that you like him as a Boy/Man. Stare at him more often than you normally do, Avoid direct eye contacts, When he notices you staring at him, Avoid looking at him and smile a lil, When you talk to your other guy friends, Try to 'Peek' at the boy (Your crush) And see what his reactions are, If he starts getting annoyed a lil, That could be a sign of jealousy. Try having skin contacts with other guys, Wait and see his reactions. Careful not to let him notice you, 'Cause if he does, He'll know you're trying to provoke him. If you ever get a chance, While you walk beside each other, Hold his hand. You could try telling him you got a boyfriend, If his behaviors changes, It means he's annoyed/sad/depressed 'cause you're in a relationship. It could mean he likes you.
This worked for my friends, So it'll probably work with you too.
Don't ask him if he likes you, Or tell him your feelings, Try to get him to notice yours.
Only tell him your feelings if you're 80% sure that he likes you. You don't want to ruin your friendship with him. Don't take the risk if you don't want to lose your friend.

Hope it helps.

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