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my girl dont wanna be with me anymore we got into it really bad and i have tried everything that i could think of. what do i do?

If she doesn't want to be with you anymore, she's got to have a reason to feel like that.

She might think you're not good enough, or you're not doing enough to make her feel loved, or wanted, or needed.

You've got to always be there for her, she's not just a tiny slice of your life, she's one of the most important that you (evidently) don't want to lose (right?).

Try something utterly romantic, something that would turn her head, cos right now she's probably going to reject anything of the sort.

But in the end, if she's happier without her, surely you've got to let her be.

I hope things get better for you soon, good luck.
Kkytha/17/f

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My boyfriend and I were talking, and we think we are ready to have sex, but we agreed that we have to have condoms and I need birth control, but neither of us really learned about it, so we had some questions.
1. To get it, I would need to go to a doctor right?
2. Do I have to bring my mom with me?
3. At the doctor's office, do I have to be a regular patient? because both of my parents work at a hospital, and I really don't want them to find out.
4. About how much does it cost?
5. Would it be a gynecologist that I have to see?

Thanks so much for helping!!

1. If you want to get on the CONTRECEPTIVE PILL, then yes, you'll have to go to a doctor. Local GP etc
2. No you don't unless you really want to and unless the provider requires parental guidance.
3. No you don't have to be a regular patient, although some would require you to be for later check-ups on the Pill.
4. I'm sorry I have no idea.
5. Ditto

Hope this helped and good luck!
-Kkytha 14/f

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today my parents wet out for awhile
so i had my boyfriend comeover
and we he ate me out, and fingered me
and i gave him a bj and a hj
and me being stupid, let him have sex with me
without a condom.
that was my first time having sex and he says he didnt cum and i dont think he did eitehr
and my cherry didnt pop. but im not sure if that matters and plus i dont usually wear tampons cause tehre uncomfortable but the tampon could of popped my chery
and also im sore down there
we had sex fo maybe 7 minutes all together so i dont think its that big of a deal
but im freaking out cuase i dont wanna be pregant.
oh and im 15.

This may be a bit too late but it's worth a try.
Go to the doctor, the pharmacy, or a family planning center and get an emergency contriceptive pill. Take it IMMEDIETLY!

The earlier after sex you take it, the better it should work. Take it within 3 days of sex though.


Hope this helps and good luck =]
Kkytha - 14/f

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How does a love triangle work? It dosent make sense to me. Lets say theres a boy, M who likes a girl N who likes a boy O who likes a girl P who likes M. Isnt that a square? How do you get a triangle?

A love triangle doesn't go all the way around like
X likes Y who likes Z who likes X, unless there are so gay/les elements to it.

Let's say
X - Girl
Y - Girl
Z - Boy

It could work like this:
X likes Z. Z likes X.
(it sucks when this happens)

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My boyfriend and I have been dating three years on Saturday. We love each other more than anything, and we want to be together for the rest of our lives, as long as we're still happy and all that. We realize we're still young, but we hope we'll stay together for... ever. Haha.

Anyway, we're not much like other couples. We don't have sex. We do most other things, but not the sex. We both know we're too immature for that just yet (even though he's 18 and I'm almost 18 as well). We live in a smaller city, and there's honestly not much to do around here. But we try to have as much fun as possible together. The thing is, I have conflicting ideas.. with myself. I love when we lay there and cuddle and all that, but then I think of how much fun it'd be to go ride bikes or just play around outside. And I know he'd have much more fun doing the outdoor things. He gets bored with laying around, and then I get mad because it makes me feel like he doesn't love me and all that craziness, even though I know he does, and that it's my fault we're stuck inside just laying around. I have no idea what to do. I've never been so thrown in my life, haha. Any help here?

It seems that you're having a strong and healthy relationship there, but talking from a younger person's point of view i might be wrong.

From what I'm seeing, both of you are reserving sex for a bigger occasion, which is good from where I stand.

I'd say, if you want to to outside, or do whatever, then tell him. Ask him if he thinks the same. If he's getting bored of just laying around, maybe he wants to do something else too.

I hope this helps =]
Kkytha - 14/f

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hi so recently i started talking to this boy. hes always pressuring me to give him head but i tell him i want to get to know him better and hang out first. he says that if i give him head it will show i like him and he will consider dating me. i just want to hang out first but he doesn't want to. does it seem like he just wants one thing only?

I've had the same experience. My ex boyfriend, Harry, 'got together' with me after 6 months of not talking and asked me to give him head. I knows I'm crazy about him and promised me a healthyly relationship if we go up to third base. Many of my friends told me to forget about him and not speak to him, which I did.

Now me and Harry are really good friends, close enough for him to tell me that he only wanted me to give him head because he had no one else to do it for him.

Leave him be for now, try to stop talking to him. If he asks why, then tell him straight out.

Hope this helps =]
Kkytha 14/f

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