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Q: okay i have a b/f and i really like him and all but then i like another guy (and i know its a *really* bad thing when you got a b/f) but i think he likes other girls too but i'm not for sure but he acts like it..but anyways this other guy i like is my ex..and i never have gotten totally over him and i think my ex is more my type than the guys i'm going out with right now i mean i love my b/f and all don't get me wrong but i don't know if i should dump my b/f or stay with him because of summer and all but my ex is moving soon and i'm really really gonna miss him and he likes me to and he was gonna ask me out:( and i don't know what to do i'm so lost..can someone help me out on what to do? cause they both like me and i don't know which one to choose..

You don't love your current boyfriend, or you wouldn't be looking at other guys like that. Try to work things out with your ex, and put your boyfriend out of his (or your own) misery.

Q: So, there's this boy...
We've been talking alot online, but i don't really see him much... well, i'm pretty sure i like him. i'm also pretty sure he likes me, but we get into these stupid arguments alot, that he usually starts. it's almost as if he's doing that to make conversation or something. another thing, he's told me about these dreams he's had about me. they usually involve us getting pretty intimate... and i'm not sure why he told me about it, but im not sure what i should make of it. what do you think?

Well, if he feels that way about you, and you feel "closer" to him too, what's left to say?

Q: ok theres this boy that i really like and have alot of feelings for. i have know him for a really long time. he was my frst b/f, my first kiss, and i lost my virginity to him also. then he switched school districts and moved, only like a 5 minute car ride.but we didnt really keep in touch. now i see him once in a while when hes in the nieghborhood, he stops by my house, he kisses me, and the last time ihe was here he took down my #, and then asked me if he could come over in 2 days and chill and i said sure, he nevr came over though. i need help do u think this kid likes me back, and should i be mad at him for not showing up when he says and wat should i say to him about this??
sorry its so long

Hope he didn't use you. If that's the case, leave him alone.

Q: this guy who is a grade above me asked me out, and i said no. the only problum is he still talks to me and flirts with me and smiles at me and crap, and i think hes gonna ask me out 'again'. not only that, but i like 2 of his close friends alot so i dont want to majorly affend him. i dont want to have him ask me out again. its imbarrising. could someone please help me i rate well!

Just flat out tell him how you don't like him and never will. Any sign of mercy will be an invitation to ask you out again.

Q: I have this habbit. Its like i start to like a guy and then he starts to like me back..and i dont really like him anymore. its like playing tag..its fun to chase them but once they stop running the fun is over. does anyone have any ideas on how to break this habbit??!?!

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thanks!

Turn away from guys for awhile. Give yourself a break.

Q: ive had 20 boyfriends. does that make a slut. im a 14/f

It depends on what you've done with them. And as for being 14 with 20 boyfriends, make up your mind. It's too early of an age to be worrying about boyfriends, especially if it's not for love. (Which obviously isn't what you and your boyfriend had if they were so easily replaced)