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k so me and my boyfriend have been dating a while k so a really long while. and just recently we have started arguing and it's like everyday. and i really love him. but i dont know what to do. because i am tired of arguing but not tired of him. and i dont want to lose him. because he means so much to me. but we argue over the tinniest stuff. it is soo stupid. sorry if i am going on and on. and sorry if its a stupid question i would just like somebody else's opinion. k thanks. :) (link)
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Arguing is a natural part of every and any relationship, but if it is over petty stuff, it's not worth the energy. You have no control over him, only how you respond, therefore that is a great place to begin. When you notice that you are arguing over something small, stop yourself. Turn it into a conversation. An argument is not just a loud conversation, it is emotional, and let's face it, nothing good will really come from that. So don't shout, and just try to talk about whatever the problem is. OR maybe just listen to what your boyfriend is saying but wait to see if a response or a conversation is even necessary. Later on you can discuss with him the fact that you think you are arguing too much, and it is upsetting you. If the fighting is not something you can change, you need to decide if you love him enough to stick around despite the stress this is causing, or you'll move on to someone who doesn't cause you as much grief (I recommend the second option).
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