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Q: hey big guy, you know me. i wont come out and tell ya (i know who "yanish" is) but if you care, the question will probably give me away

the girl i like, nay, love has just had her heart stomped on by her b/f. or, at leats he was her boyfriend. trouble is, i knew it would happen before hand; her ex is my best friend. im feelin guilty for not tellin her, but i dont want to tell her at all, i dont want her knowing that i knew hed break up with her. at the same time, im tryin to figure out the proper amount of time to wait before tellin her i "like" her.

the last time i tried to wait a bit was last football season, i think you remember everyone on the team pressurin the one guy to ask a volleyball player out, that was me man. but yea, can ya help a buddy out?

Well if you knew before hand then its understandable to feel guilty. It's kind of like survivors guilt which is where when someone dies you feel its your fault for some reason or another. Just know that it's not your fault because if you had told her then it would have happened anyways and your friend might not be too happy with you. Now to the question at hand. As I've just told a friend that I've liked her for a while I know it's hard to do trust me I KNOW! lol but anyways wait until the moment is right! You will know I swear. I did :) I hope it all works out for you!

Hope I helped and good luck!

Q: Hey well me n my bf broke up and i thought i was perfectly fine with it.. i even dated other guys.. well then i started feeling like i really wanted him back.. ive changed alot since he last saw me.. well i told him how i felt and he only wants to be friends... ive been trying to move on but its hard... really hard.. should i face the fact that we arent goin to get back together.. or wait it out??

Signed,
Deeply in over my head..

Please help me ( im 14)

Hey. Like I've said before you should talk to him and tell him u still have feelings for him and if he doesn't care then he doesnt deserve to have a GREAT girl like u. Good luck and hoped I helped

P.S. yes i no who sent this =D

Q: My bf and I are 8 weeks into our relationship, things are good I guess except... I kinda feel like something's wrong.. Even though it shouldn't be :( I guess the best way to put this is, ever since we started going out nothings changed! We're still like friends...just who now make out and spend weekends together. And it's abit uncomfortable for me.. for some reason... don't get me wrong I like my guy alot but it feels strange because I still see him as one of my friends I guess... like the first time he started kissing me I pulled away because it felt weird and he mistook it that I wasn't comfortable with kissing lol... he told me he'd lay off until I was more ready! He doesn't know how I feel, I guess I'm afraid to say it.. it sounds like the start of a breakup afterall! And well.. I'm not exactly feeling a spark for him either, I find his personality cute, even adorable! but he isn't exactly attractive looking to me, I know that's mean to say.. but I just don't feel any spark there.. this kinda bothers me I guess.. but I still like him! I am messed up? What do you think I should do? I'm going to try and talk to him about it when I see him but what sort of things should I say? I really dont wanna hurt his feelings with what I say, do you think this will end in a break up?? :(
Please help! i'm 16

Well you should definintely tell him how you feel. No matter what keep your chin up and hope for the best. If you really don't feel a spark than tell him you just want to be friends but make sure he knows that your not just saying that.

Hope I helped

Q: ok this is really worryin me my g/f is in middlsboro with her mom 4 the summer there is alot of boys that like her up there. i mean yea i trust her and all but i rlly dont kno what 2 think about all those boys can any1 help me????

All you can really do is hope that you can trust her. If you can then there will be no problems. I would suggest keeping in touch with her while shes up there...and always tell her you love her. If she knows that it will be harder for her to go against you :)

Hope I helped!!

Q: all about the same guy:
1. my friend and I have gone through alot I cried on his shoulder about guys and him about girls. now we like each other, but his ex girlfriend hangs all over him. he sees her like twice a week and I cant help but think that he likes her still (even though he told me he doesnt).
2.I am going into high school and we are both christians I want a spiritual relationship but am I ready for one?
3.summer is here and we are doing may things apart from each other, how do I keep his intrest?
please help,
christy

Well for the answers.

1. Thats really good to have such a good friend but you might want to hold off on the serious relationship because it might jeopardize your friendship. But you never know :-)

2. I think a spiritual relationship is a good step to aligning your life more with the way Jesus would want. So if you think you're ready for that then go for it!

3. Well if you'll want to keep interested then talk all the time. Try to plan activities together like going to the movies or heading up to a pool.

Good luck!

Q: Um...well i really like sum1...well actually i luv him...and the last time we tried to meet at the theatre, all the tickets were sold out, and i didnt even get to see him, i got really depressed... how do i deal with it? how do i show him how much i care?{I'm a gurl}

You don't have to show me how much you care I already know and I love you too!

Q: okay me and my boyfriend decided it would be best to take a "break" during the summer...(im 15 if that helps lol) he said that we would maybe go back out again next year during school, depending on our status at the end of the summer...so what can i do to make sure that we BOTH stay interested in eachother, because i love him soo much, more than anyone!
thanks!
I rate!

Well first off I think its kinda dumb to take a break like that. If you'll love each other than keep in touch on the phone and go on dates and stuff still. Just do whatever you feel is right but if you want him to stay interested make sure you talk to him still!

Good luck!