Hey everyone! My names Alanna, Lani for short. I live in Wisconsin and will be a freshman next fall. I've been giving advice on gurl.com for over a year now, so i have lots of experience for any topic you can think of. I love helping people, and I hope I can help you! :)
E-mail: sugarnspice845@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Wisconsin
Occupation: Student
Age: 14
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Member Since: June 27, 2004
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idk what to do any more me and this guy went out for a while and i really liked him....but we lived like 20 mins away from eachother,so0o he did this to me 3 times...he keep sayin i dont know if we should still go out any more and by the 3 time he broke up with me.....he broke my heart 3 TIMES and he told me he still loved me and all that and i met another guy like a week ago that i started to really like and ((this other guy that broke my heart was goin to ask me out again and i felt so0o bad that i didnt love him any more and every ones like yellin at me b.c i wouldnt go back out with him ((even though he hurt me more then i hurt him)) what should i do to make him be my friend HELP ???? (link)
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~well it might take him awhile, if ever, if he's going to be your friend. when he broke your heart, would you have really felt like being his friend? give him some time to cool off, and then talk to him. tell him you care about him, but not that way, and you hope this doesn't come between you two. and as for those people who are yelling at your for not going back out with him, don't listen to them at all.. never let anyone (friends or family) force you into a relationship. they didn't exactly feel the hurt and pain he put you through did they? so they really have no right to say anything bad about your decision. and concerning this new guy, i hope everything works out better this time for you. have fun with it!
thankz for your time, and drop one in my box if you need anything! :)
Lana
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I like this guy alot, and he's my friends neighbor there no problem. we both flirtall the time (anthony and me). its just that at sometimes he'll go i don like you what are you doen here but he'll say it sarcasticly. and then at other times he'llplay footsie with me. i like him alot. but idk wheter should i confront him, or just keep things the way they are. i see him alot during the summer so that wouldnt b a problem.and hes a grade aahead of me idk if that might be the problemt too. please help (link)
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Definitely go up to him! He sounds like he really likes you, but is waiting for you to make the move. and don't worry about that one grade. some girls date guys that are 2, 3, or even 4 grades ahead, and that can be a problem. here's what i'd do, but if your kinda shy, this might not work.
~ you go up to him and sit right by him. you're just talking, whatever...FLIRTING...must flirt! then like just stop talking...so its silent. then smile and say, "you have something on your face'. he'll say 'where' and then gently, softly and slowly kiss him on the cheek (if your brave...THE LIPS) the relationship should go from there :)
thankz for your time!
Lani
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My bf has this friend brit and i am almost positive she likes him and like he asked me would you be mad if i saw a girl in a swimsuit and she was biking and i was to and i went up to talk to her? and i said umm no..? and he said o cuz i saw brit. and another time he went to her house and he is like brit wants us to go over to her house 8 or 9 in the morning but he didnt go so thats good. idk she is just prettier then me and skinnier then me .. thats when we sorta got in a bad situation i told him i thought i didnt meet up to his standards and he said in otherwards you think you arent good enough for me? and i said yeah and he said well if anything your to good for me but that was awhile ago .. so what should i do or even tell him?! (link)
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Do not worry! He sounds like an excellent guy to me! and he also sounds like he likes you a lot. you're really lucky :). also, if your afraid about her 'stealing' your guy, i wouldn't worry about it, cuz he's probably too smart for that. and if he's not then he's really not worth your time is he? ;)
thankz so much for your time and please feel free to ask me about anything in the future.
Lani
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my boyfriend is 15 and i'm 13/f well i think that his friends are telling him that he is stupid for going out with me, i want to talk to him about it but i'm scared to. he is my neighbor and i want to call him but i'm to scared that he is going to break up with me. what should i do (link)
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well girl, you're going to need to talk to him sometime! especially if he's your boyfriend. and if he really likes you, he won't listen to what his friends say! and if he does then, hes really not worth it, is he?
Call him! Talk to him! See whats on his mind! and if he does break up with you, then you will have at least gained lots of experience in the dating field. but i think you'll find everything will be ok!
thankz for your time and please feel free to ask me about anything in the future!
Lani :)
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Okay.. well Ive been with my boyfriend for 16 months (on wednesday) Anyways.. he got drunk last night and cheated on me with his ex.. and he said that he didnt even mean to, he was just drunk.. and that he loved me he just wanted to take a break.. and he came back online, and we were talking.. and it was like.. we were still together.. i mean he still called me "babygirl" and said I love you when he had to leave.. what should i do? :/ Thanks!~ (link)
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Well in any other situation I'd say 'ditch him', but one thing that you've got to consider is those 16 months of being together!! 16 months is a long time to through everything away in one drunken night. You have to look back at those 16 months...have they been good, has be been great to you? Has he devoted his time to you, and do you really feel something special? If you do, than you need to talk to him...not over the internet. you need to sit down and discuss what happened and talk through it. most importantly, GET through it. it'll take awhile to rebuild the trust, but you can do it! and one more thing....if he EVER does this again....drunk or not, its a sign he's taking advantage of you. then i go back to my first line...DITCH HIM.
i really hope everything works out, and feel free to ask me about anything in the future~
Lani :)
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i like this one guy ALOT!! seriously i cant get him outta my head!! and he now knows that i like him and all my friends r telling me just to ask him out n stuff and i dont want to cuz i just have a huge fear of rejection and i mean ya i rilly wanna go out w/ him but id rather have him ask me out and i mean if i knew for shur that he liked me the same way i like him then i would but i dont know if he does so wut should i do?? (link)
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I know rejection is tough to deal with, but if you don't ask him out, you're probably going to regret it for A LONG time. Imagine that you don't ask him out and 5 years from now you find out that he liked you, but he was scared too? Wouldn't you feel really bad? You know a lot of times girls put all the pressure on guys to ask them out, when they can be just as shy. And to make it more comfortable, maybe try calling him or talking to him on the internet. any way you do it, ease into it, don't just come out and say "Be my boyfriend please!". Try, "Hey, doesn't w/e movie look great? Hey maybe we could see it sometime?...Like Friday?"
And even if he says no, you'll always be able to say that you were the girl who went and did it, not let her fear overtake her. and if he rejects you, it'll hurt, but you'll get over it! you'll move on and find a guy a little more interested ;)
thankz for your time and please feel free to ask me about anything in the future!
Lani :)
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Okay so I went to my vollyball practice and Im new at it, and this guy just stares at me he's 15 and has dirty blonde hair, light blue eyes and is really nice to me , I missed the ball and he just came over after practice and interduced himself , we went to my house and talked and he showed me a few tips ,is this Mr Right or not???
Jenipher Plz answer!!!! (link)
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well i wouldn't go so far as saying 'Mr. Right'...remember at 15 most guyz have a one track mind, and do i need to tell you what track its on? but he sounds interested, so go with it. if he's sweet, make it a relationship, but remmember if he ever pressures you to do something you don't want to, say NO and end it! he could hide his true self for awhile trying to fool you.
but for the time being, go for it, and have fun!
thankz for your time and please feel free to ask me about anything!
Lani :)
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this slimy clear (sometimes milky) stuff is comming out of my vigina and i think its cum but i dont know. is it? and how do i make this stuff stop comming!!!????PLEASE HELP! SOMETIMES SO MUCH COMES OUT THAT MY PANTS GET WET SO IT LOOKS LIKE I PEED IN MY PANTS! :( (link)
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Don't worry! its normal...its just vaginal discharge. most all girls have it before they start their period and between it after it starts. to stop the 'peed pants' look, i'd suggest a panty liner. if it keeps coming out that heavy you might want to ask your mom or a doctor, but my the sounds of it, nothings wrong!
thankz for your time
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Lani
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im a 14/f and well i dont think im a lezbo or that im Bi but i have kissed girls and guys. with the gurls it was mostly just for fun like for a laugh. but i also find girls sexy and i think women are just beautiful. but im not like really attracted to any girls. but some are really pretty and like i said i dont mind kissing them especially my close friends. and i dance w/ my friends and we get close and stuff. am i bi? i dont know, im not sure?? (link)
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Do not worry! you're just a normal 14 year old girl. I do everything you do! I dance with my friends all the time, and everytime we see each other we always hug and kiss like you would family. and as far as finding girls sexy and beautiful? we are! guys you know are cute and everything, but women are beautiful! just like you can admire actresses and models who are pretty, same with women on the street. i wouldn't worry about it, trust me!
thankz for your time :)
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Lani
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