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My boyfriend who I loved just broke up with me.
But the thing is he broke up with me for no good reason. He told my best friend that he thought it was time. But I don't really understand that. We had an amazing date like 3 days ago, and we both had a ton of fun, and he seemed like everything was normal, he kept kissing me and all that normal stuff. But just last night he broke up with me. But the thing is we have only been going out for two months and in his grade (he's older) apparently it's not cool for a guy to be in a relationship for more then 2 months. My friend also asked him if I did anything wrong, and my ex told her to tell me that I didn't do anything wrong. He really hurt me, and i haven't stopped crying. I don't know what to do. I don't think I ever want to date someone again. I only want the guy that broke up with me, and I believe I always will.
Can you explain to me why he broke up with me?? And what I can to do stop feeling so lousy??
HELP!!! (link)
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No one can ever explain why guys do what they do. If I could then I would be richer than Bill Gates. But I can tell you that if he goes by what his friends say is "uncool" and just ups and breaks up with you then he is not worth it. Breaking up is always hard and the first thing you need to do is take a whole day to yourself. Rent your favorite movies and lounge around all day eating your favorite junk foods. Then you need to plan a day with your friends and hang with them all day without talking about relationships. Then you need to write down everything you liked and disliked about your ex. After you have everything written down rip the paper up and never read it again. Eventually you will want to date again even though it seems like the world is coming to an end right now. It is good to vent to people about how you miss him but do it for only two days max. After the two days are up you are not to mention that you miss him ever again. Before you know it you will feel so much better and may even start to look for a new guy but dont date him right away. Start by being friends then slowly break into the dating period. You want to give yourself enough time to heal otherwise you will soon find yourself picking out everything that your new guy does wrong and compare him to your ex. That will drive your new guy away and will leave you with more pain.
~AdviceGirl123
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i like this guy
and i havent ruined it with him yet.
hes in one of my classes but i see him alot
i guess ive known him longer then i remember
because he remembered me
but what can i do to get his attention
letting him know that im available
nothing too big to show him that im in love with him
witch is frankly not true
just little things here and there
thanks so much (link)
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The little things like commenting on what he is wearing (I know sounds girlish but guys love it). You can laugh at his jokes and funny stuff that he says. Dont hover (always be around him) because then he will think that you are trying to hard and most guys dont like that. Guys also like when you ask them what they are into or how their weekend went.
~AdviceGirl123
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Ohkay, So at the beginning of my freshman year, [i'm a sophmore now] i became really close with a boy in my biology class. he was my BEST FRIEND. around march, we started dating, because we were absolutly crazy about eachother. we're still dating now, but..he moved to minnesota. i didn't think doing a long distance realationship would be bad, since we were dating about five months before he left. but i just feel like i'm holding him back, from, dating other people, or meeting other people. hes absolutly sure that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. but the other night he told me that hes terrified of losing me, that hes afraid someone else will come along and make me feel the same way he does. i know thats not true at all. but should i still be with him? should i wait til we're older and able to be together, not just "dating together" but physically together, with eachother all the time?
i don't know, i've just really been thinking about it lately. hes the most important thing in my life, and don't doubt it when i say i love him. because i do. i thought i loved other guys before, but it was nothing like this is for me. its the best feeling in the world. i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing by staying with him.. (link)
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OK first of all, long distant relationships can be very tricky. If you feel like you are holding him back then maybe you should wait till you are older. Your both young and should explore the world before you decide to settle down. If you truly do love eachother then you will be together when you are older, but until then you both need to experiment with life before you can say that you found the one. As for him feeling like he is going to lose you is one sign that he needs to get to know other people. If you put your whole world around one person you miss everything that you may need later in life. Im not saying that you two should date other people unless you feel the need to. Im saying that you need to experience life right now because it will be harder when you get older to get away with half the stuff you can now.
~AdviceGirl123
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I need hekp to try and get a boyfrined or at least to get a boy to like me. I always see questions that girls ask about tips on flirting or getting a boyfriend; I also try to use the advice, but it just never works! I'm generally very confident and talkative, but guys still don't like me. Does the fact that I talk a lot make me come off too strong? I just want to know, are there does anyone have any tips on how to be better with guys, aside from the general "be confident?" I'm in highschool, by the way. (link)
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Who put it in your mind that you need a guy in your life? Guys, especially ones that are in highschool, dont know what they want. My advice to you is take advantage of having friends that are guys. If you are not satisfied with them just as friends then try to find a guy that you have a lot in common with. They usually work best for us girls because there will be a lot less drama. Being confindent in urself and being concieted have a fine line between them so be careful with that.
-AdviceGirl123
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So i am dating this guy and he tries to control everything about me. I really like him i just hate that he tries to control me. What should i do?
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Tell him that you dont like to be told what to do because you are not his pet. If he doesnt want to change the fact that he controls you then you two are not meant to be. You shouldnt lower yourself for people. The relationship will never give you what you need from it.
-AdviceGirl123
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