Hey Yall! My name's Heather! I'm a Freshman(*yeah, go ahead and chop me) and i'll be 15 in April. I'm creative, weird, random, energetic, and outgoing. I *love* helping people, which is why I'm here! Feel free to IM me or leave a message in my inbox ;]
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okay i like this guy jeff ... and have for a long time and i want to keep liking him. hes gotta girl friend and i dont mind because shes my friend ... i want to flirt and hang out with other guys but to be honest i want to like jeff still ... hes won of my best guy friends and i want to know if there is anything i can do so i will still like jeff even if i flirt
*in love* (link)
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if you really like the boy...you're gonna like him regardless of who you flirt with.
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hey im 13/f and this guy might ask me out b4 christmas and if he does, i have no idea what to get him for christmas. any ideas?? (link)
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Ask him what he likes. Music, favorite bands, clothes, etc. Maybe buy his favorite band's latest cd! Or if you have no idea and sweet card and money, or a gift card can't go wrong! Good luck!! :D
♥,
heather
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i just asked you a question and im just asking you another. the advice was great but my mom likes my boyfriend alot and i dont know what to do im so confused. its like i cant leave him i cant be with any guy except for him and its like so great being with him and i forget about everything and then he controls me so bad and gets his brother and all of his friends to like spy on me and school and make shure that i dont talk to any guys or to my best friends. he tells me who to hang out with who to talk to and everything else its so annoying. he never shuts up about when i cheated on him but he cheated on me with my best friend. i dont no what to do and this is like so bad. plesae write back (link)
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confront him. be like "if you like me...why don't you want me to be happy? my friends make you happy. you spying on me DOESN'T MAKE ME HAPPY!" and when he brings up the fact bad stuff happened....remind him of what he did with your bestfriend, just to get back at you.
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ive been dating this guy for 6 months and i cheated on him when i was high and then we broke up and we went back out and he told me that i couldnt talk to any guys or go anywhere, hang out with any of my friends or talk to anybody on the phone except him and wont let me hang out with one of my best friends. we just broke up a few minutes ago because this girl called me and she wanted me to three way a guy for her to ask if he was cheating on her and that then he found out and broke up with me. i love him so much and hes the only guy i like to be around, hes like my best friend and i dont know what to do now. but the thing is that when we broke up the first time he made out with my best friend. (link)
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It sounds like he's tooooo protective. People make mistakes, just as you did when you were high. He needs to accept that. You didn't mean to...obviously if you love him so much. It's stupid that he wont let you hang out with anybody, i'm surprised you didn't drop him then! I know i would have. You need your friends more than you need your overprotective boyfriend. And it sounds to me he kissed your bestfriend not because he liked her, but to be spiteful towards you. Just take the good with the bad, and learn from your mistakes. if yall do end up getting back together let him know that you are going to hang out with your friends and call who you want. and that he should be able to trust you..if he can't yall don't need to date anyway. hope i helped.
♥,
heather
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Ok i really like this guy but last year he liked me when i didnt like him and then i liked him and he didnt like me and then we kinda went out for like 5 min but now he just broke up with his g/f and i dont know if he likes me now because he was talking to my other friend about me in a good way what should i do ? (link)
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Talk to him about it be like "Listen here buddy! I like you, i know you used to like me. we need to get things straight!" :D
♥,
heather
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i have this bf that i have been going out for like 3 weeks now and we have kissed made-out all that stuff but we go to different school and today he said that he forgot that he was going out with me and he another girl asked him out at his school and he siad yes.did he really forget me and should dump him or just forget about it?? and should i find the other girl and tell her? MY EMAIL ADRRESS IS HOTMORMON58@YAHOO.COM THANX (link)
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psh!! DUMP HIS BUTT! you deserve much better! Why are you dating him...if he doesn't even know it (or remember it) that's retarted, find yourself a man that can keep his girlfriends straight. it sounds like he used the whole "oh i forgot durhher" as an excuse to kiss another girl. I would break it off right now before you like him even more, and before he has another chance to "forget" again.
♥,
heather
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age-13 and a half and im a girl!
ok i've liked this guy for OVER a year and he seems so perfect for me! i really really like him STILL but i dont think he likes me ... but im not sure! hes known that i've liked him all along! hes a really good friend and we talk a lot but hes gotta g/f and shes my friend and i love her to death! shes nice and all but im soo jealous! they've kissed and i seem them walking in the hall together and i just want to punch her! (but i wouldnt) hes had other g/f's since i've liked him and i dont really care but i want to know if he likes me ... preferably when he doesnt have a g/f! i honestly love this kid! hes supercool and doesnt care what people think! i miss him all the time ... think about him all the time .. and i get all happy and excited when i know i get to see him! i really like him and i want him to know so bad but i've told him a million times! i dont know what else to tell him without sounding like a total stalker! i dont know i just want to know if he likes me and if he would ever go out with me! i dont know what to do! i need an opinion! thanks a lot! sorry so long!! (link)
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Okay, since yall talk about a bunch of stuff, this shouldn't be too hard to do. Just one day, when yall are talking about something just say "I really like you, a lot and you know i have for a long time....but i've been confused lately, and it's killing me, i just need to know what your feelings are towards me." Just ask him how he feels about you. It's okay to be jealous of his girlfriend, he's dating your dreamboy! Just try not to punch her :D (haha) If he doesn't respond like you might want him to...don't show it. Just be like "Alright, that's cool I guess. It doesn't change the way I feel about things, but now I know how you feel." and if he does end up liking you! then wah-lah! hope i helped! keep me posted :D
♥,
heather
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ok, so ive been going out with this guy for about a month, and at first i thought i really liked him, but now hes kinda annoying. i still want to be friends, but hes gonna take that as that classic break up line, but i really do. i only like him as a friend, NOT a boyfriend. hes always joking around and not very mature. lately hes been asking me wut i want 4 christmas, and i dont kno wut to say!!! im planning on breaking up with him before christmas, so i dont want him to buy me a present, but i think he already has. it would be really weird to get a present from an ex. HELP!! (link)
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well instead of the "lets just be friends" line....don't say it like that. Just tell him that he acts more like a friend towards you, and it feels weird dating...because it FEELS like you're dating your friend. So...if you feel like breaking it off, just tell him that things are weird between yall, and afterwards....yall can still hang out and BE FRIENDS. And even if he did buy you a present..i have friends that i get presents for and that get me presents all the time. Take it as a present from a friend, not an ex. and take time to buy him a little something too :D
♥,
heather
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last year i went out with this guy twice and then i ended uo swicthing schools. i recently started hangng out with him alot and then he got grounded and now i only see him once a week. i have liked him for awhile and his best friend says that he likes me too. hes not sure if he wants to go out with me because we go to different schools and we only see eachother once a week. we live close together but hes been grounded forever! i dont know what to do to make him see that it doenst matter that we go to different schools, i mean he went out with girls at differnet schools last year why not this year.... i just cant stop thinking about him and i love being with him so much! i just dont know what to do to make him see how much he means to me i just wish he would go out with me and i dont know what to do to get him to not worry about the fact we go to differnet schools. what do you think i should do? thanks a bunch!! (link)
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hey!..If I were you, I'd just mention the fact that he's dated a girl from a different school before, and yall DO see each other once a week, and bring up the fact that...once he gets off restriction then you'll be able to see each other more. encourgae him to do better so he can get off restriction, and hang out! In some instances, it's GREAT not to go to the same school with your boyfriend/girlfriend...less gossip, and you won't get tired of him so much! Even if yall don't see each other as much as you'd like, that makes it all the more better when you do! Hope I helped :D let me know how it goes ;)
♥,
heather
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if you want to do something with your boyfriend, like hold hands or whatever, how do you know if they want to? you dont want to do it if they dont want to...and when their friends are with you and him what are you supposed to do, are you supposed to let them ignore you or are you supposed to say something to ur boyfriend? (link)
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well if you're dating him..it should be okay to hold his hand. he should want to show feelings! if he doesn't why are you dating him? you don't want a boy like that! and you should NEVER let him ignore you! even if he is with his friends. of course you shouldn't be all over him, but yes it's okay to hug, and say hey while infront of his friends. if he's embarrassed or ashamed, you shouldn't be dating him. you should be comfortable holding his hand and being with him around friends. hope i was help
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hey i'm goin out with this boy named Orlando and we've been goin out for about 2 months and 2 weeks and i liked him alot for those 2 months but now im not sure if i do anymore...whenever we hang out its like we're friends, not more than that. I've had my friend Chris try to like tell him that i want to hold his hand and stuff and it still doesnt help. i'd get embarassed if i tried to talk to him so i'm not gonna try and talk to him. I kinda want to dump him because if we dont act like we're goin out and we just act like we're friends then i dont see a point in goin out...but i dont know how to tell him. i dont want every one to run up to me after i do it and say "omg you dumped him? why?" and "i cant believe you dumped him!!" and all that stuff...i'd feel totally bad. What should i do? dump him? and if i do dump him how should i say it? (link)
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if you like him...don't break up with him...when yall are hanging out you just need to get the nerve up and grab his hand. if he's dating you, he should WANT that..maybe he's just too shy. he'd be so impressed if you just made the move so go for that! if you don't like him, and do plan on breaking up with him. tell him that you feel better as friends and when you hang out...you don't feel like a couple.
♥,
heather
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okay... i really like this one guy... but whenever i talk to him .. i dont know what to talk about!! i need good things to talk about!!! anything!!...helppp! (link)
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how his day went, what is he doing for christmas, is he going anywhere, how does he like a teacher, did he understand last night's homework, any siblings. etc. just talk to him! :D
♥,
heather
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My ex boyfriend Chris claims he loves me but than we get in a fight and he says he doesn't and than I will talk to one of his friends and than him and I will start talking again and he will tell me how jealous he gets when I talk to his friend. I don't understand why he gets jealous and why he loves me one minute but not the next. Please help. ASAP. Hugs n kiss*s xoxo
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...of course he's going to say things he doesn't mean when yall fight. it happens. he gets jealous because he likes you, and because that's his FRIEND that you're talking to. friends don't do that to friends.
♥,
heather
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Ok I have a guy i like and who likes me or so my friend says. All 3 of us were in 3rd period and she sits nect to him and asked him if he liked me and he said yea sort of. then she asked him would you ever go out wit her he said i dont really know her. I am SoOo Shy and i dont know how to talk to him cause i dont know what to say to him and i guess hes shy too cause he doesnt really talk to anyone. So how do i start a conversation with him?! Like some tips!! HELP! I'LL RATE YOU HIGH! (link)
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well if he likes you...(sort of) then he really wouldn't care what yall are talking about, as long as you're talking to him. When you go back to school this week, ask him how his weekend was, what he did. so on. if he's planning on going anywhere for christmas. just start talking to him, after you ask him some stuff like that, it'll make it much easier to talk about other things, and to start talking at other times. good luck!
♥,
heather
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I am 14, in ninth grade, and I am female.
Okay, first I'm going to give a little backround information.
I had a boyfriend that tried to cheat on me with his ex girlfriend. I knew that I couldn't trust him ever again, so I broke up with him yesterday. Don't worry, I feel really good about it.
Well, a few days ago, I found out from one of my friends that another friend of mine, Ricky, likes me. At first, I wasn't sure I could trust the friend that told me, T.J., because T.J. is weird like that. Then, my best friend Megan told me yesterday that Ricky has liked me for a long time.
My question is, is it okay to go ahead and date Ricky so soon after dumping my previous boyfriend?
~ClarinetKtM (link)
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Date who you like...it's beter than leading someone on! Who cares what people say? People really shouldn't talk about it. it's not likely for a 14 year old to be committed to someone for over a month. date around, but realize..nobody is perfect, everybody is goign to have something you hate...you just learn to love it!
hope i helped
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Sry so long!!! well theres this guy that ive had a thing with for a like 3 months or so and its been off and on. Well the other night i was drunk with 2 of my friends. And this guy came over and he was sober. One of my friends was pretty much passed out and she has a bf too...well this guy decided to take advantage of her and make out with her and i think maybe even more...not so sure though...after he made out with her he would come over to me and start taking advantage of me...well i didnt know that he was doing that until my other friend the only one who didnt do anything with this guy told me the next morning what went on. I want to end this thing with this guy because of what happened, but i still like him and i cant help it. what should i do? (link)
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How can you still like this creep!? He messed around with YOUR drunk FRIEND? ..and then you?! If he fooled around with your friend while she was drunk that just goes to show that he thinks about her. If yall did end up hooking up, or dating or whatnot..would you be comfortable to know that he took advantage of your drunk friend, and thinks about her? NO! Just realize what he did. that should help you. i know i wouldn't like a guy like that. hope i helped :D
♥,
heather
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