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Hey.

My fiance and I are having "living issues".

When we get married he wants to live in the upstairs of his house. Which his dad turned into an apartment with a kitchen, bathroom, living room, ect. Its just like a real house.

I see nothing wronge with this other than the fact that his parents treat him like a dog, take all his money, prevent him from doing half the stuff he wants to, and force him to wait on them hand and foot. Yes, he stands up for himself but it still doesn't make it right.

I've tryed talking to him about getting a modular. I think they are very nice.

He kinda agrees.

Well, with his job, he makes $10 an hour, and makes around 700 every 2 weeks. He got the job in October. Thats the problem.

Since he isn't istablished well in his job, I'm worried that he will lose it and we wpn't be able to pay the bills.

So, I want your opinion.

Even though I don't like his parents and neither does he.
Do you think that it would be best to just stay at his house until we have money saved up to get a home, or just jump into it right to start with?

Thanks.

The ideal thing to do would be to stay as long as you can to save up. But it all depends on the severity of the problems @ his house. Yes, there are going to be issues living with his parents. I don't think any newlywed couple can say it's the best living situation. But sometimes you have to take what you can get. In this case, it might not take very long before you are able to get on your feet. If the problems are so intolerable that it causes fighting between you & him, then settling with an apartment less than perfect might be a better solution - even if it's just temporary until you can find something much better. If you think you can handle your living situation for a little longer, then try to make the best of things till then. Yes, it might be tough. But like I said, sometimes you aren't left with many options. In the meantime, save as much money as possible & look into a few decent priced apartments in your area. :)

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