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I am a married women and i have two boys of ages 3 and 6 years old. since being with my husband we have loads of ups and downs and we are still together. I am a good listener and i am none- judgemental no matter what i am told i keep to myself and i am honset in my answers i give to questions i have been asked and also with my life i am also honset as well.

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I'm a freshmen and I lost my virginity in the spring of 2010 to my boyfriend. Things got rough when he broke up with me and I found out he had been cheating. I went to this summer high school party and things got a little crazy even though I wasn't drinking. I ended up having sex with a bunch of the guys there. It was really, really bad. I got pregnant, panicked and told like all of my friends, and then ended up having a miscarriage (not abortion like some rumors going around say). So like everybody knew what went on since a lot of people were at the party and then I opened my big mouth about me getting pregnant.

This year everybody calls me a slut, but I swear I'm not really. I was just hurt, I guess. It hurts because right before winter vacation a senior asked me to prom and I accepted and was happy at first but then he was all saying how he doesn't want to knock me up and I figured out that's the whole reason (sex) why he wanted to go with me so I had to tell him no to going.

I confronted one girl who was ALWAYS picking on me and calling me slut and whore. We had this fight but I feel terrible because at one point she asked me how many guys I've had sex with and my number is kinda big for my age and I didn't know more than half the guys that did it with me. It only makes things worse for me because I keep thinking of what I did and how it was pretty bad.

I don't want to be slutty. I haven't had sex with ANYBODY since summer. How do I get people to forget about the summer thing and just move on with things? I don't want to be THE slut of the school because of 1 thing I did.

slut is a word with different meaning to it and it can be depending on the person who is receiving it is weather how they take it i would say avoid fighting and ignore them if they can't get a reaction out of you they will leave you alone i would say think about what you are saying stuff like what you did at a party and pregnant is you and you alone people will do things to hurt there friends etc if they are jealous of the other person so take no notice i know it is hard but i eventually it does quieten down as that is what i had to do in a similar situation and it worked it was hard going not to react but it worked and being nice works as it throws the other person off guard as they are not expecting it and works as you have forgotten in a since and they then know it is pointless in saying anything

hope it helps selinajones 28

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