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Q: How do i turn a guy on at school and in class?

Sorry if this is rude, but why would you wanna turn a guy on at school? Ha. Anyway I'll try to help. Just do a lot of flirty and seductive things. Don't go overboard on it though. Guys will think it's stupid if you make it too obvious. Like in class look over at him and make eye contact, wink and give a cutsie little smile and look away. Little subtle things will drive a guy insane. Trust me. Laugh a lot, guys think it's cute, just not like A LOT, and not a stupid little blonde laugh. Push your chest out a little when you're talking to him, but don't make it so obvious, when girls do that they just look like skanks. Remember to be sneaky about it. Throw little flirty conversations in there. When ya'll are talking, look at him and smile, and he'll smile back, bite your lip a little and he will go crazy ha. I hope this helped? I know some things sound cheesy and stupid, but if you play em right, they'll work.

Q: i really like this boy and i've like him for quite abit now but my bestfriend likes him also. it hurts me too think that i could break her heart by getting with him or even just kissing him :( iv known him alot longer than my friend but if i choose him then im scared i wont have a future with my friend but if i cdo stick by my friend then i wont have a future with the lad :(

HELP ME!! please.....

This seriously just happened to me like two days ago, haha. And I've seen it happen to most of my friends. My advice for you is to first, be completely honest with your friend if she doesn't already know that you like him. Try talking about it with her. And my opinion is that friends are more important, they stay with you longer you know? This guy could date you, and then end up leaving you within the next week. And you probably won't have your friend to talk to. I suggest working it out with her and if she says it's okay that you like him or ya'll date or whatever, then that's your choice whether or not to take that route and date him, cause you could risk losing your frienship with this person, even though they say it's okay, she might be lying to you just so she won't upset you and keep ya'll from dating. To me, friends are more important than boyfriends, they last longer. You need to decide who means more to you, the boy or your friend. It's not easy at all, I've learned that. I spent nights staying up thinking about what I'm supposed to do, but I chose my friend because she means more to me than a boy. I know I talk a lot :/ ha sorry. But when I read your question I just wanted to help you sooo bad because I know exactly how you feel. Please consider my advice and if you need any more help just let me know. Just remember, think about how your friend feels, it's the worst thing to be only thinking of what's best for you. I hope this helped(:
-Ray

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl. Sorry if its long . :P
Well, I like this guy for a year now and he's a good friend of mine. We started getting actually closer, friend wise, this year. We joke around a lot and mock each other, though a few times he's said stuff like, "NO ! I LOVE YOU MAN," and other stuff somewhat related to that when I make him feel bad. I have 2 classes with him but only talk to him in one of them since he's with his friend for one of them. He's quite, erm, a perverted guy? He talks to me about boners and stuff like that. Yeah I know it's kind of weird. I do notice that he looks at me at times, but sometimes when he's with his friends, he never looks at me. He has brought up if I liked anyone but I just said maybe, and I asked him the same and he said he doesn't like anyone. My friends all think he likes me but then they don't realize I'm actually pretty tight with him and all. I know I sound ridiculous right now, because I could just tell him. But the thing is, there are some other girls that like him aswell, but their not as tight with him like I am, and some of those girls told him that they like him, and he started to ignore them. He finds them annoying. But you see, their not that good looking. I'm not saying I'm a "hot" person, but I'm decent. When we're sitting beside eachother and when our legs/arms/shoulders sometimes touch, he won't move it away, but sometimes he does. I'm pretty confused right now, and I'm also close with his friend and his friend said that he's pretty shy too and he never said "i love you" to other girls. I don't know how to tell him that I like him, or even what to do. We talk a lot on msn and stuff aswell. Any advice is appreciated. :) Thanks!

If i were you i would just take the chance. From what you have said it seems like he may like you. If your friends are telling you that he likes you then that shows that he's giving off signs that you may not notice but they do. If you've liked him for a while then you need to let it out, otherwise he may move on if you dont say anything soon. But tell him in person, over text is kinda lame, especially if yall are good friends. And second dont do it in front of his friends. Guys dont get embarrasse easily, but with this kind of thing, yes they will. Hope this helped:)

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Hey guys, it's Rachel. I just wanted to say that I love giving advice and my friends tell me I'm really good at it. If you have any questions at all don't be afraid to ask, I enjoy helping people. Peace outtt(: