I'm a happily married Wife of 18 years with 5 beautiful children. I have created with my Husband a Family life I never thought possible in this world of turmoil and confusion. Growing up through my teen years was more like an excersize in surviving, both emotionally and mentally. The first years of my adulthood I spent re-evaluating all that I had lived through, and then rebuilding myself into a person I liked and wanted to be. The realization that changed my life forever was when I came to understand; I was not who or what others said I was, or wanted me to be. I didn't have to repeat my parents mistakes, when there was so many of my own I could make. I realized I alone was responsible for my choices, and for letting others treat me badly. I was no longer a child, and could demand and expect to be treated well. By freezing out those who didn't understand that for me things had changed!! I was still young, so I didn't alway's know what to do, but I sure knew what NOT to do! Which that alone is sometimes half the battle!!
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do emo kids get made fun of a lot? (link)
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Well it just seems to be a fact of life that in school everyone gets labeled as something. Whether it's right or wrong doesn't really matter it just is, what it is. As the Mother of two teens. A girl and a boy I have become very familiar with the term EMO's. From what they tell me, Emo's at their schools (one in middle and one in high school) kinda stick together. They of course are known for cutting themselves for whatever reason. Not really sure why. However because of this they are looked at by the other kids as kinda crazy and possibly dangerous. As my kids say if they cut themselves they won't have no problem cutting someone who messes with them. I have overheard my kids and their friends laughing about stories or incidents with emo's and other kids at school. Even though they do talk about them and laugh they wouldn't do it to their face. Or even within earshot.
They like most the kids, feel its better to be cool to someone who is living in that state of mind than to start trouble with them. In fact from what I hear the prep's get more grief by other kids than emo's do cause no one is afraid of them, and they act like they think their better than others. Therefore, they are much better targets for the general population of kids to pick on. Take Care.
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Ok, heres the problem. I feel very comfortable with older people then I do with people my own age. The trouble with that is I'm 17 and the people I get along with are like 34-whatever. Well, when I'm at school I literally can't even look up at people. I get so nervous. I mean it's kind of pathetic but I talk to this janitor everyday more then I talk to anyone else in the school. I literally have my head down and I wear like uberly baggy clothes as well. I feel very uncomfortable with myself. I've had a shrink since I was 8 so don't suggest that. And I already take meds which obviously isn't helping. What can I do? (link)
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First of all, it's not a bad thing that you get along with adults better than people your own age. In fact, it kinda makes sense in this way; kids are on the most part, mean and judgemental about anything and everything. Probably the reason your so nervous is because you have had, or are afraid of having, a situation where you are ridiculed or ostrasized. What you really need to start telling yourself and convincing yourself of is; These people your wasting your time worrying about what they may think, say, or do, wont even be in your life 5 years from now!! Instead of looking around worrying what they think. Start looking around and forming opinions about them.
As for how you feel about yourself. I wish I knew what exactly are the things you don't like, or are uncomfortable with about yourself. For me it was glasses, bad haircuts my Mother kept inflicting upon me, and those old black and white shoes with inlays to correct my pigeon-toed problem. Oh yeah, and the cords pants my Mother insisted on buying, they didn't help either. Like you, I also felt at ease with older people. I knew all the janitors by name as well as the NARC's. Which of course made me a bit strange to my peers. I didn't care because I just considered them to be not intellectually evolved enough to be able to handle associating with adults on any other level than as an authority. I kept it to myself, but in my eyes they didn't quite matter as much because they still had soooo much growing up to do mentally. Therefore, what my peers opinion of me was didn't really matter to me. Cause I had already passed judgement on them. (I know that sounds bad but it's truly how I coped with being so different than most of them.) That made it pretty easy to associate with them (peers) without fear and overwhelming nervousness. Once I felt better about myself that is. That's what I think you need to focus on is what your feeling about yourself. When you get that right in your mind the rest will fall into place. I wish I had more info so I could help give you some ideas on that. Write me back if you want to and give me more details about what makes you so uncomfortable with you. Hope to hear from you soon. Take care.
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