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Hello there,
I'd like to thank whoever is gonna give me advice in advance.
Anyway, I've always had this problem:
I'm the president of the Student Council, and honestly I expected people, including my friends, to be happy for me.
However, two of my friends ( a boy and a girl), who are also on the Student council, started rumors about me being a show off and reminding the teachers about the homework, eventhough it's not true.
The boy's girlfriend is on the Student Council too, and I wanted to ask for her opinion about something. And as soon as I even opened my mouth, he cut me off! And stupid me didn't say anything! Not "Please man, I'm talking to her", nothing!
And on the same day, we had a "crazy dress up" competition and the Student Council members had to judge.
I was dressed as a gypsy, and was wearing a red shirt, red bandana, and red sandals. So from the beginning of the day, he keeps trying to provoke me: "Is it Valentine's day today or what?"
All I said was "What do you have against me?" and I walked away from him.
And in front of everyone, EVERYONE, he practically yells at me saying: "This crazy dress up must've been your idea!"
I just stared at him and walked away again.
And guess what? The crazy dress up day wasn't my idea! It was the other girl's idea and he would've known if he was even paying attention in the meetings! And guess what else? I didn't say that to him!
So my question is: How can I show this guy, whom I've known for almost 5 years, that he's being immature and is disrespecting me and hurting my feelings? :(
And how can I tell the other girl that I know what she's been saying about me? (link)
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see, first of look at yourself, you have been got disturbed by his activities or words or actions or what so ever, why you got disturbed, there is something withing you wants to show who you are to your friend. you may settle this person and prove who you are only if he is willing to listen you. definetiely it is not inyour hands right now. one factor he may be insecure or you are too fast. any way if you really want him to understand you, then you must win his trust or confidence. and you should not get hurt for his actions or illtreatments. this can be easily done if you see him and accept him as a little child who wants to show that he is boss to everybody. this kind of people are all over the world. definetily you cannot convience every body. if you are silent and calm and smile everytime when u meet him, then slowly things started changing, how much time he can tease you. definetiely when he sees no response from you he has no business with you. he cannot be sit quitely with you if he lost his tool of teasing. however, you will come out of irritation and become compassion on him. i can quote many things, that said by saints and sages but one famous quote will be available all over the world. once jesus said- love thy neighbour. if you can love your neighbour you can love anybody in the world. because only he can disturb you at any time. conflits are happinening with neibures , neiburing countries
not with the person who is faraway. you can love your god, jesus, buddha, krishna or anybody or even me. you will not have any problem in executing this. first look at yourself and find what disturbing him mostly, if you take care and express care on him thro your actions, emotions, etc simple gifts (even if he tease u for that)slowly things definitely starts changing. even if it not changing, you won't feel hurted but you will learn new things from him atleast how you should not. just for this you can live gratututily for him in whole life time .best wishes for you, you can contact me at my mail or thro this if youwish
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so im 14/f and im so called "different" from everyone else. i dont look the same as them because i have my own style and im myself. being a freshman sucks too. anyway i dont have a boyfriend. i mean boys talk to me all the time i guess they just dont like me? This one even walks me to class and sits by me all the time. So does that mean he likes me? How can i tell if they like me?
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instead of u dreaming or imagining yourself, talk to him straightly, even if he dislike you can make him a friend or advicer or as a guide for better relation ship and future
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Can anyone help. I am currently working for a firm which due to expansion is doing a re-structure within the office. All of us have been told that they will try and get similar jobs for us to take but there might be redundancy. I have been offered a job which pays £10 less then i am on and have taken away the company car. I started with the compnay when there was 13 people and now there is over 200. Can they do this to me as i feel totally let down by the company.
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first i saw this into two dimensions, one thing monatory and comfort loss second thing is it any revenge aganis me or we can call it as insecurity about future. if it is monatory loss definetiley we can earn again no need to worry. and if it is same condition for all the employees there isno matter to worry , of if it is only for you, may be you can evolve yourself to find what could be the reason for that. inthis way we can make our life better. second, our ego hurt, if you too much attached to what you are doing or position, when somebody takes it back you feel your privace is not there or your insecurity arises. pre conclusion canalso be one more factor for insecurity. because of deceided judgement. if it is this way, it canhappen for you anywhere intheworld. from the question, idon't thing lossing 10 dollar is not a problem. it is theproblem that your egohurt. i worked from this year but they did like this. it reflects some blameing upon them to what happened . you feel escaped if you blame them for thesituation. otherwise youhave to work for that to regain that. if youare self dependent person youwon't worry too much for the loss instead you make slight adjustment in your economy till it regain its old strenght. that is how even a country can do. but right now you don't want to loose anything . nor you not willing to touch you. somewhere you feel your the boss of the company. so you got hurt when they touched you. if you have valid reason to regain it you can explain them. or atleast you simply work quietly and peacefully till you got the acknowledgement from the management. i am not a person to suggest anyparticular solution but i can guide you for a better part of life. you can take yoga in your life. i have known many institutions but of all which the isha yoga run by a living master Sadhguru jaggi Vasudev the founder of ishafoundation, for total depth of yoga is a best one to keep the practices alive in day today life without any alteration in our present system. if you wish you can try that.or visit their website
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