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i used to have tons of friends, popular ones too. then they all ditched me. now all of my friends, even the ones who havent ditched me, are subtily avoiding me and not talking to me. i think its because i shut down after my best friend ditched me. how can i get my friends back and make new ones? because i am sick of being alone every friday night.

Okay, well, I've been in this situation, and there's really only two things you can do.

One) You can confront them. Ask them what's up. What's their problem. If they don't want to answer you, or if they give you an excuse which you know is not true- then drop them. They're obviously not your true friends and if they really cared about you and wanted to be your friend, they'd talk to you in order to fix the problem.

Two) Don't even bother with trying to fix the problem, and find new friends. With new friends you can learn what other people are like before you get too close, and decide for yourself whether or not you want to be their friend. It's not always easy, and I know that, I've been there, but it's the only thing ya can do.

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