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Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl who will be a sophomore in HS in the fall. I honestly think that I wasn't meant to have friends. As long as I can remember, even back in kindergarten, I've been bullied. Growing up, I would get invited to birthday parties by the parents, but when I got there the kid would say they didn't want me there. :( I've had years where I would come home and cry for hours every day because I was so miserable. Fast forward to the present. Everyone at my high school is so shallow that it drives me insane. Don't tell me to join clubs to meet new people, because my school has 300 people and everyone is exactly the same. I had a lunch table of people that I sat with this year, but I have nothing in common with them. They barely said anything to me at all this entire year. People think that I'm a nerd. I get straight A's without even trying because I've basically given up on myself. Plus, everyone likes to pick on me because I'm younger (in my town for some reason, freshmen are sixteen years old, but I was thirteen). I really hate my life. I WANT to be able to go out and have fun with friends, go on dates (I've never had a boyfriend and probably will never have one), and do stuff, but I'm just so depressed. I don't even feel fulfilled doing the things I used to like doing. My entire life revolves around regurgitating A grades to keep my parents happy. I don't want to live like this... Last year I started cutting but it didn't make me feel better. Thanks for reading this far. Help.... (link)
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It's honestly rare to find real "friends" in high school. Most friendships developed as a kid are mainly out of location and convenience. Ya know, "Oh well, you're here and I'm here, and you're rich and I'm rich, and we're both pretty, so let's be friends." That's not even hardly the definition of a real friend. I never seemed to fit in either. I appeared to have lots of friends, my facebook page was very popular, but when I really thought about it, I still felt completely alone. All of my "friends" wouldn't really go to the ends of the Earth for me or love me unconditionally. And knowing that, makes the journey that much harder, because you don't take any of the relationships in your life serious. You won't know what it is to have a real friend until you have one, and then no one else will measure up. But trust me, being that way can make life a lot more lonely and difficult, but it's also a key sign that you're different. You stand out. You're capable of seeing past your pretty clothes and fancy car. And in the long run, you'll be a well rounded person. So I'm not saying stick your nose out to everyone else because you think you know more, but don't feel discouraged when others won't give you the time of day because, really, it's a friendship that THEY missed out on, not you.
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