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me and my friends (girls and boys) made this kind of crazy bet last week. i won't go into detail because the moderators might delete my question, but now one of the boys (we'll call him T) is starting to get a little too friendly for my liking. i mean, he's cute and all, but this problem has been happening to me for at least 5 years now. T just can't keep his hands off of me! he'll touch my butt & run, come up behind me & "accidentally" bump into me, or put his hands on my chest.& on top of that, he keeps callin me his girl! i guess it's my fault for letting him do it, but i do tell him to stop & try turn the other way when he reaches for my chest. i guess what i'm trying to ask is,how should i deal with this? i don't want to gget him in trouble by reporting him to the principal, because that seems like i'll be taking it a little too far. if anybody can give some suggestions, that would be great!!!

First of all, decide if you want him in your life at all. I understand that since you're going to school, it's not much of a choice, but no one has a right to touch you if you don't want it. I didn't understand anything about the *bet* for now, but you can email me later if you want to go into detail about that.

Anyway, just choose what kind of relationship you want to have with this guy. Is he your friend, buddy, or just "a guy from school"? Do you like him, and how he really feels about you? Are you flirting with him sometimes, or maybe he's trying to flirt with you in that strange (stupid actually) manner? In any way, if you don't want to have anything to do with him, just let him know that you are not some little girl he can play with when he wants to, and make him realize that if the "hand wandering" accidents will happen again, you'll report about it instantly.

I don't know if the guy you're talking about is good, bad, or the ugly, but be careful, because if you started to have thoughts about reporting him to the principal, things may really get ugly, and the fact that he is no gentlemen is already obvious. So just play safe, make things clear for him, and, just in case, don't get drunk in front of him, and have 911 easily accessible in your cell phone.

If you will further problems with this guy, don't be shy and write to me.


Lyss

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