I will keep this brief. I am an individual who has lived a lot of life. I would like to help everyone who needs assistance. Just remember, you may not get the answer you want; however, I will provide you with the answer I think you need.
Gender: Male
Location: Albuquerque, NM and I now reside in Los Angeles, CA
Occupation: Executive Analyst in Telecommunications and Film enthusiast.
Age: 27
Member Since: October 18, 2012
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Ok well since grade one iv been teased and mocked and been called a whale and all the lot of it and even at home my mum and dad went threw a divorce and my weird crazy step dad burnt my mums hair off and had thrird degree burns and then I went to foster care and they used to shove us in a room and we werent aloud to come out unless we went to the toilet or for eating and drinking, anyways I never had really nice friends either they use to be my friend one day then not the next day, since primary school iv had depression and then high school came around and I had no friends and had to eat alone all the time and I used to wagg school all the time abd mum tryed getting me to see a councellor but it didnt work and im very self concous all the
time, im not even that fat, im a tiny bit soft around the edges and now I have a bf that loves me for me but cheats and then loves me again, im stuffed up and not sure what to do im near breaking point (link)
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Dear High School Blues.
Whale...Fattie...Dough boy...Pillbury... Porky Pig.. Onwards and so forth! Ever heard the phrase "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"? Well, I am here to tell you that all that is just bogus. Words are the most cruel form of punishment, words break relationships, start wars, and even break people.
Your question and background story show that you have had inconveniences in your life, and that can always be emotionally taxing. Let's break this down a bit. You have a boyfriend who cheats - trust and respect are the foundations of a relationship and clearly he doesn't respect you enough to be loyal and clearly he isn't trust worthy. Life is to short and there are many people out there that are looking for a good relationship, value yourself and be empowered to say I am worth more to myself and my future person.
You say you have friends that like you one day, then they don't. That's not friendship, that's momentary accommodation and not worth your time or your energy.
I wasn't the coolest kid in high school, and I transferred into a high school, so friend making was from the ground up. I was a bit chunky and at one point was called all the names that I listed above.
On to your answer. I personally believe that having someone to talk with is a good thing. A counselor, friend, family member, or anyone that wants to invest in your happiness or success. I suggest your find someone to express these concerns with. You want to make friends right? Start with hobbies that you enjoy, there are people who like the same things, and there are many websites (for example: Meetup) that encourage people of all backgrounds to engage in activities together and make friends. You are not the only person out there feeling this way, trust me. Just remember you must always do what is best for you first, then you can complicate it with the desires of others.
I hope this helps.
-CLE247
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18/F I'm a greeter at Wal-Mart, so I interact with a loooot of different people on a daily basis. Well this one time later at night, this guy who looked to be about 30 and frankly, like a wannabe gangster pot-smoker, came in. I turned around when I heard the automatic door opening and kindly greeted him. He gave me a slight smile and walked past me, but he turned around and said, "You know, you have REALLY pretty eyes. Just thought I'd tell you that." Stunned, I said "Haha, thank you very much! Have a good night." and he walked away. He comes in about 2 or 3 times a week, and ever since he said that, I'd always smile at him when I walked past him, or greet him all friendly-like when he walked in. I just thought he was a nice guy, and I greeted him just like I greet the old people that come in. WELL, tonight I was returning some garlic bread back to where it belongs, when I saw him. So I smile and give a nod as I walk past. Well, I put the bread back, turn around and there he is. He says "Hey, do you have a number I could have so we could get to know each other?" I've never been asked for my number before, and he was so outright, I didn't know what to do. So I said, "Uuuummm... I don't know... How about YOU give me YOUR number?" So he asked if I had a pen and some paper, I said I didn't, but that we might have some up front. I start walking, and he follows me across the whole store to the front. I give him some paper, he rips it in half, writes his number down, and says "Give me your number too." I panicked. I've never dated anyone, let alone been asked out before. He seemed like the type that would call me a ton. SO, I wrote down my dad's old cell phone number which doesn't work anymore. He then asked me if I liked cage fighting. I said "Uh no, not really." and he goes "Well I'm fighting at the arena downtown next week, maybe you can watch one of my fights." and I said "Um, maybe!" then he asked what time I got out of work, to which I said I didn't know. I DEFINITELY didn't want him seeing the car I drive, or possibly have him following me home. He lives in the area, and comes in all the time, and what's worse is I'm a GREETER, so I'd HAVE to talk to him again. I thought about it, and I feel really bad... I probably shouldn't have done that, but I didn't know what else to do! I couldn't just flat out reject him, I see him all the time. After thinking about it, I feel terrible. So I tried to call the number so I could say something like, "Oh sorry, I accidentally gave you the wrong number! Things are complicated, and I'm really not looking for a relationship right now..." or something like that, but his writing's REALLY messy, I can hardly read the numbers they're so squished together, and when I attempted, I got some lady's voice mail. I really wasn't trying to be mean at all. I don't know what to do, or if what I did is right or not... Please help me! Thank you for your time. (link)
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Fake Number,
Thank you for the quirky story and I can assure you that you are not alone. As a front line associate, this was bound to happen, and depending on your tenure as a greeter it is surprising that this has happened before and yet you were caught off guard and "panicked".
First off, it is good that you actually care about what transpired. This instinct alone should have answered your question of "I don't know what to do, or if what I did is right or not"?
Confrontation is something that people deal with on a daily basis, and everyone's level of comfort also varies. Personally, I feel the action you took was not correct and was not very professional. My reasons are: This customer is a repeat customer that you see on a regular basis and he may actually approach you as ask why you gave him the wrong number or he may revisit his original request and ask for your number again. If he shrugs off that you gave him the wrong number, you either have to get creative and lie or tell the truth. The situation you put yourself can also have professional repercussions given he feels insulted.
On a personal note, there is nothing wrong with telling a customer that you are working and the conversation does go against your corporate code of conduct. This sounds ridiculous; however, you are protecting yourself and your business.
Honestly, a business is invested in the welfare and security of their employees, and you should speak with your management if something arises, because there is no way to gauge what kind of person this man is, and your personal security should come first.
I hope this helps.
-CLE247
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