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My name is Kambrey and I am a very oppinionated and strong willed person, however I am also very open-minded to new ways of thinking and others opinions. Being a minority where I live has helped open my eyes to the struggles of others. And since the minority I belong to is a religious one I am also very repectful of others beliefs, life styles and points of view. I know it's hard to be different sometimes, and even harder asking for help when your worried others are judging you. I'm NOT going to judge you. Period. My only purpose is to help. Feel free to hit me with ANY question you need help with! And to anyone reading my column with comments, oppinions or really any constructive critisism PLEASE let me know! Can't wait to hear from you! ~Kambrey
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k so i like a couple guys, but none of them are interested like at all. they watch me in class but whenever i try to talk to them or wave or anything they act like im not there. ive never been on a date and never had a bf. but people tell me i am really pretty and stuff but then why dont any gys like me?
(i rate good)

Dear Reader,
I know how you feel with the whole, people telling you you are pretty but not being asked out by anyone. It's frusterating and confusing. But the thing is how can you be sure that they don't like you? See guys can be funny like that, and well so are we I guess. Just because a guy hasn't gotten the courage to ask you on a date doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Look at it this way, you haven't asked him out yet you know you like him. The point is don't be to quick to worry, he may just be scared or intimidated...
Plus, he's watching you in class. I HIGHLY doubt that he'd be doing that if he didn't AT THE VERY LEAST find you attractive. A lot of times when a guy really likes someone they have a hard time finding words when they're around them. I'm sure you know what I mean because girls do that to. Where "the really hott guy in my math class" talked to you and you were SO embarassed because all you could do was stare and studder when he asked your name. See? Don't worry about it.
As for the why aren't guys asking you out. Haven't you ever wondered how that 'no-so-good-looking' girl you know has a boyfriend and you don't? It's because dating isn't usually about looks, sure they're a perk, but a pretty face isn't usually enough to keep a stable relationship. I'm not saying you don't have any other great qualities, you just probably aren't letting them show. Maybe try being more outgoing, say hi to them(and other's) everytime you see them in the hall, and try talking to them again. And if that still doesn't work maybe try asking him on a date. I know that it's scary to think about, and WAY easier said then done but I promise he will be blow away by you forwardness and probably appreciate you taking the pressure off of him. If that doesn't work or you need more help with ways to ask him out or something you know where to find me.
Let me know how it works out, hope I helped :)
~Kambrey

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I'm 14/f...I like my best friend and unfortunatley its a girl (no offense to anyone). I want to tell her just so I can talk to her about it but she seems like she could care less. So what do I do? Do I just blab it out or not tell her at all? Thnx in advance.

-Duckie

Dear Duckie,
First off I just want to tell you that you should never have to apologize for your beliefs or how you feel. If you are gay don't be ashamed of it and don't let others influence it.
Now on to your problem at hand. You didn't say to much about your friend so I'm just going to give you my advice for both senerio's(the first being you don't know if she's gay or not and the second being you know she is).
If you like her and want to know if she is interested or not first you just kind of need to ease into the subject. Bring up a movie you saw(Brokeback Mt. is a good example), see how she reacts to the movie. Usually movies like that spark discussion. K, now i'm gonna skip ahead a bit. So now you know that she is fine with people being gay, next you have to find out her personal stance, ya know if she ever looks at other girls as attractive or not. If you get that feeling in your gut that gives you the go ahead ask her if she would like to go on a date sometime(but I would wait a day or so for this, let it sink in and her think about the idea first).
Second senerio- you already know that she is. Skip the first couple steps and ask her on a date. But just a tip, avoid flat out saying that you have a crush on her before you've gone out a few times.
Best wishes and good luck!
~Kambrey

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