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I am 27 my BF 27.
I am in a long distance relationship for five years. We see each other 2/3 times a year. My boyfriend is very caring and nice. And off course I trust him a lot.
A few months back a saw a girl commenting on few of his post. and by her comment it seems like they chat sometimes. She always reacts with love react to his post. and sometimes comments praising his singing.
Now my BF has other female friends, they are his classmates and colleagues. And I am not insecure about them at all. But this girl is not his classmate or colleague.
Now I am not saying that he is having something with her. Like I said earlier I trust him completely. But I don't know why I have this weird feeling that the girl has a crush on my BF and she is trying to impress him. Should I do something about it? It is bothering me a lot. I didn't ask my bf about the girl yet. Should I ask him? How can I ask him? or should I just ignore it?
BTW we don't share our couple picture online or post anything about our relationship online. As me and my BF both are very private person. Our close friends and family members know about our relationship. But we don't showoff online. (link)
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Not only would it be fine to ask him about the nature of his relationship with the "other woman", but its entirely appropriate to do so.
You don't need to be so timid or hesitant. However, having said this, I would also stress that your long distance relationship with direct contact "2/3 times a year" is hardly what falls in the category of "boyfriend/girlfriend", despite what you call it.
You may trust himn conmpletely, but there has been no promise of exclusivity, no engagement, no permanent relationship mentioned...and in other words, this is hardly a boyfriend/girlfriend thing at all.
Long distance relationships are notoriously temporary and lacking in commitment or even meaning. It is also quite normal and understandable that he might wish to engage in relationships with women closer to home, and with no need to keep things hidden.
So in sum, my best advice to you would be to lighten up on the "seriousness" of the relationship, and perhaps to even seek out those who live in your area for dating. I would anticipate that this "relationship" , if it lasts at all, will remain as superficial as it now appears to be. Do not limit yourself, emotionally or otherwise, by reading into it more than it really is. Electronic friends
Good luck and good wishes, Dr. Stephanie
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You assumed a lot. We are in a serious relationship. And thinking about getting married next year.
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