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My bestfriend left in 10th grade and I got into a group of friends it was fine for a while until I felt like I was getting more and more picked on. From getting my head pushed, grabbing my shoes and I ran after them with my socks wet, grabbing my phone and texting people without my permission, always being the target and more. Now I am in 12 grade and am so happy that we are staying home cause in 11th grade I would have mental breakdowns every week cause I felt so lost and stuck cause the person who was the key to all of this knew I have social anxiety and cant just up and leave to a different friend group so I felt like this person was taking advantage of that. I told myself that I would wait until graduation and cut them off but now I feel fake...and I feel fake to myself cause every time this person wants to talk to me I really really don't want to cause I know this person is going to try to find anything to pick on me about. And yet I force myself to respond cause I'm scared of the possibility that to we might go back to school in May and I really don't want drama I just want to leave this friendship. I am especially nervous if we do go back in May cause I don't know what this person is going to do. This person is very impulsive and might lash out and that the last thing I want. This person recently started to comment more on my story's and Instagram photo I believe he/she knows I am getting distant. Like today he/she messaged me saying how its almost my birthday. Once I saw that message my anxiety increased so much and I was about to breakdown. And the thing is, is that every time this person would be nice to me like once in a while I would rethink everything which has really took a toll on my mental health. I keep debating with myself. On one hand I really don't want to respond and want to end and I feel fake and cause I told myself I will never again put myself in that situation again but on the other hand I'm like just wait until graduation and you never have to see this person ever again. Idk..Idk..I feel so lost and suck please I need advice! (link)
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I am so sorry that you are having to endure this, on top of having "social anxiety".Have you ever been in counseling? I'll bet it could help with the anxiety, as well as give you many useful coping tips. You might ask your parents about arranging this for you.
Bullying is never acceptable, in ANY form ! If it is happening at school, your teachers and counselors and the principal need to know about it and to take appropriate steps to curb it. They WILL !
The old saying goes..."With friends like this, who needs enemies?!" You do need some other friends, so you can leave these awful ones behind. They're really NOT your friends. Even ONE good friend is all you really need, to get through the rest of high school ! When you get ready, you can dump the rest of these jerks like hot potatoes!
So: Tell your parents, tell the adults at school.
Ask for counseling. Find one good new friend! You will get through this, and come out alive on the other end, just fine! Good wishes, good luck! ~Dr. Stephanie
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Thank you very much for all your help!
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