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So I know this girl and we both went to highschool together. I've always admired her and I wanted to be friends with her but I was always so shy and when she did talk to me I'd come off stand off ish because I felt self-conscious of myself. Over the years after high school I kept bumping into her at random public places but we never said hi or anything because I guess we were never that close. Anyways this year, my bf got into dentistry and surprisingly the girl also got into dental hygiene at the same school as my bf. So occasionally I would see her at events and stuff and the other night I was so drunk that I came up to her and hugged her .... Ive been feeling so embarrassed ever since and I can't help shake off the feeling that I came across weird. Unconsciously I feel like I'm trying to find ways to be her friend but I feel like I'm coming across weird and obsessed. It's like fate keeps bringing me and her together..is this weird? I feel self conscious. How can I stop feeling this obession of wanting to be her friend?

First off you're not weird but i do think you are totally over thinking things a little. Its normal to feel that way about someone that you want to be friends with but i think that when you meet her you over think things like what will her response be like towards you and that makes you act awkward towards her. You mentioned that you always meet her in passing off and on i think before you do meet her again relax your mind first don't look at it as an interview , just look at it as you're meeting your best friend or your closest friend that you have. say hi to her like you normally do take out the pressure off yourself about she must be my friend. You could even use your boyfriend as a way to start a conversation too or use him as a bridge to get to know her. that can work as well.

I HOPE THAT HELPS YOU IN SOME WAY

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for your reassuring advice. You're right I have noticed that I tend to overthink these things. Based on this scenerio though, if you were that girl would you be weirded out that a girl you knew of but weren't close with hugged you at the club?
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