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I live in a house with 3 other housemates. In total, there are 3 women and 1 guy. We have lived together 2 years.
Two of us (female) are in our early twenties and the other girl and guy are in their early thirties. We have had a great dynamic. We are all really great friends and supportive of each other. We all hang out occasionally.
Everything just went south yesterday when my guy housemate (let's call him Jake) told both me and my other younger roommate separately (she's my very dear friend- let's call her Lisa) that he has developed romantic feelings for both of us.
Lisa responded by immediately going on a date with another guy today. As for me, I am extremely confused. I have been friends with Jake for 5 years and we have a great, playful dynamic that other people have mistaken for a romantic couple. He is very attractive. But I thought we were like siblings and always envisioned him being with someone else.
And now Lisa is mad at me, because she wanted to talk to me about how her date went when she got home yesterday. But I was talking to Jake so I didn't end up talking to her, and now she is avoiding talking to me.
Jake and I would be a great match except that Jake isn't as religious as I am, which is my number one deal breaker. He said yesterday he is invested in exploring his faith more, especially because his parents have always wanted that, but he hasn't yet.
And I don't understand why he has feelings for two people simultaneously- that seems like cheating, even though none of us are in relationships, which is weird.
I am very confused. This feels like a strange, really badly written sitcom. I'd appreciate any advice on what to do next. Thanks (link)
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I may sound vulgar saying this, but it seems like your 30 year old male friend might want to have a threesome with two girls nearly a decade younger than him. Your female friend may seem offended because clearly she feels you prefer 'him' than her. I would value her friendship over his sleazy ways. He's just trying to see who "loosens up" first. Check your priorities, and ultimately it's your choice.
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