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Okay so I'm 14 years old and I'm a female. Recently (as in the last couple of days recently) my two best friends said they don't want to be friends with me anymore. Reasons given by friend 1 is that I'm not as good a friend as friend 2 and I'm self-centred and I brush off problems (despite the numerous hours I've spent trying to help both of them with their problems). friend 2 gave similar reasons. I have two other really close friends in our friendship group and yesterday they said they don't want to be friends with me because I'm too clingy. So in the span of two days I've lost literally all my friends. I've been diagnosed with depression, and anxiety- I'm on medication and receiving therapy. I have tried committing suicide once before and constantly think about it. I'm not in school at the moment because the mental health team think I'm not stable enough to be in school. Today all my ex-friends have messaged me about how they're worried about me and some about how they care, etc.
I'm pretty bitter about the situation. They knew I was off school for feeling badly suicidal anyway so I don't see how they thought telling me I'm an awful person in such detail then abandoning me would help. Like they could've just waited until I came back to school and was in a better mental state.
The fact that they've messaged me again has made me feel worse if I'm being honest, and I don't know what to reply. I don't want to reply anything but they probably think I'm dead or something so I don't think it's fair to leave them in a constant state of worry, even if they've hurt me. I'm not okay, I'm feeling really badly suicidal and I'm might be going into hospital- it depends on what they think is best for me right now. So I'd be lying if I tell them I'm okay but at the same time they're not my friends and I don't want to list off about how shit I'm actually feeling. Any ideas on what to reply if anything at all? Thanks
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Sweetie, I have been in the same boat. I am guessing that you feel like a social outcast. But that is okay. I personally have had 3,yes 3, suicide attempts. And I have finally found a way to at least deal with the sadness of feeling like a loner. I started really getting into my choir at school because I love music and found out I'm a great singer. Take up something you love and focus your life on that. And eventually you will make friends with the same common interest. And the anxiety, when it starts to get real bad, go to somewhere quite, shut your eyes, and just think about a happy place. Whether that be a beach, a forest, grandma's house, etc. It really helps to calm down your heart rate and then yourself. As for your "friends", tell them the truth, but not the whole truth. Maybe something like "I'm doing better. Thanks for the concerns." OR maybe "I just need some time and/or space. Thank you for the concerns, but I think it would be best if we didn't talk until I return to school." Again, these are just suggestions. I really hope that this helped! I hope you feel better soon!
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Thank you, the advice really helped- I'm glad you've found a way to deal with your problems, best of luck with all that. Again thanks for the help :)
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