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So basically im 17 years old and never had a boyfriend, ive had a few crushes here and there but ive never tried to make my crushes more than crushes because of my low self-esteem and social anxiety. Anyways i was the type of person where if someone asked me who i liked i would say no one because based on my school experience whenever you tell someone you like a guy they always tell the guy and i didnt like that. So i would say no one so that they wouldnt know and they wouldnt tell the guy. Now grade 12 and all my friends except me have prom dates because of my social anxiety i dont really have any guy friends i was reallu socially awkward and people would always judge my voice and call me monotone so i wouldnt talk. Anyways its prom season and now my friend keeps on making these jokes for example lets call my friend kenzie and the one making jokes Raychel. So kenzie said hi to raychel and then said hi to me and then when i waved back raychel was like "oooo someones got a girlfriend" i told her that wasnt funny and since shes loud and rumours spread fast people might believe her and thought i was gay not that theres anything wrong with being gay. Then today raychel was like "liar liar pants on fire kissing girls on a telephone wire" and then i asked her to repeat what she said and she repeated everything except the kissing girls part. Just because i havent had a boyfriend before and havent told her who i like doesnf automatically mean im a lesbian what should i do about her and this situation? I believe thay in order to get into a relationship with someone else you have to love yourself first and i dont thats one of the reason why i dont bother with relationships apart from the anxiety and not looking physically attractive in my opinion. I dont know if my friend watched a buzzfeed video to make her assume that im gay because basically the video is about these 3 girls all of them started talking about their crushes and then the bisexual girl told them she didnt know who she liked because she secretly liked this girl, thats not me at all i just dont wanna tell who or anyone who i like (right now i dont like anyone because ive been so focused on just getting into post secondary school that i dont even look at a guys way plus im always home now so i dont go out to see any guys and the guys at my school ive known majority of them since kindergarten so its like growing up with my non-related brothers) please help on some advice on how to deal with this (i know i should just brush it off but me having social anxiety one bad embarrasing thing sticks with me for a very long time) sorry if this seems more of a rant and thank you in advance if you read up to this point (link)
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Hey! I know the hardest thing is to feel like an outcast at school, especially in high school! The best thing to do is to just keep your head up and find a friend who doesn't care about the rumors. You will find a guy who is just as awkward as you, and it will be great! You are almost out of there! Just finish school and have a good time, whether you go to prom or not. Good luck!
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