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Q: I have bad anxiety and I put a blog explaining why anxiety made me leave school so that people wouldn't ask questions, a few weeks later a guy I've been friends with for years but grown apart from came to me saying he has depression. I didn't think anything of it until he came to me everyday saying he wanted to kill himself, and then came to me with a knife saying he didn't dare cut himself so wanted me to do it, and asked for tips on the best way to do it. Ever since then I haven't wasted my breath on him, just listened. Nothing he says ever adds up: he was taking 20 anti-depressants a day, he said his doctor diagnosed him with depression and then told him that he was wrong and then re-diagnosed him and then told him it wasn't, he said that his counsellor said that it sounds like has bipolar, depression, Alzheimer's, Parkinson's disease and anxiety. This all seems like such rubbish, and I don't want to waste my time on an attention seeker, because it made my anxiety worse at one point that I couldn't help him. He constantly says that he would rather have social anxiety, agoraphobia and panic attacks like me than have bipolar like him, saying that I have it easier than him.

Is there a way I can find out if he is lying or attention seeking? If I stop going out for walks with him then I'll never leave my house, making me worse. I don't know what to do.
Your friend is doing just as you said he is, he's attention seeking. To answer your question from a medical standpoint - it would be extremely unlikely (read: you can bet he's lying) for him to have Alzheimer's and Parkinson's disease. In face it would very unlikely for him to have either of those unless he's elderly which I doubt he is.

He is definitely not taking 20 anti-depressants a day, he would be dead plain and simple.

If he had bipolar disorder then this could cause him to have symptoms including anxiety and depression, but you should ask him next time to provide proof of his diagnosis. I'm sure he won't be able to.

He probably just googled symptoms and diseases and then chose the ones he thought sounded the most like people would feel sorry for and decided to pretend to have them to get attention.

I would shut him out of your life if I were you. He sounds like a compulsive liar.

Thank you!

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