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My bestfriend and I went to college and he took the easy way. The median of his salary when he graduates is around 40k while mine is 90k, I warned him about this and he told me that its ok. Now I was trying to observe both his and my experiences.
On his first month, he and his new friends went to mount rushmore for four days. Then their second year was even more of a blast, they went to paris.
Now I have many things to be jealous about, I know I'm not supposed to be feeling this way since I have a bright future ahead, since I never get grades any lesser than 98, but he just seems to have so much fun.
Here are the things im jealous about:
1.) How much fun he has on his studies
2.) How much friends he has
3.) He's my bestfriend, I should've been there the first time he rode a plane, but he has other friends with him.
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Your friend does seem to be having a carefree time and doing lots of fun stuff right now. And you feel like you're slogging away, getting the grades but missing out on the high-life? It's that old wheel-of-furtune mate. We go from on top, to bottom with just half a turn. It evens itself out over time. Unexpected dramas and disasters, golden periods where you can't do a thing wrong and life feels great, periods that are neither particulalry good nor bad...just routine and boring. Try not to let envy consume you and mess up a friendship. It's his turn at the top right now. You'll have your turn. And maybe he'll feel the same pangs of envy looking at you then? Be good if we could somehow 'synchronise' that wheel so that we always shared the ups and downs together with a close friend/partner/relative wouldn't it? Sometimes it does indeed fall out that way. Your good fortune does not depend on his lack of it, and vice versa. I like the analogy of a carefree pigeon flying around and blithely crapping on the statues in the city. In our lives, some days you are the pigeon. Some days you are the statue!
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Wow! Thanks so much! That means a lot. But having a friend jealous of you doesn't seem to sound nice, I'll sincerely do what I can to include him with whatever I achieve
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