E-mail: brittjeankon@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Calgary
Occupation: Accountant
Age: 20
Member Since: August 4, 2015
Answers: 15
Last Update: November 26, 2015
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Hello,I've been in a long distance relationship for quite some time now,as of a week ago,I didnt hear from my guy,due to some personal problems and his dad being in the hospital. Below,I have written the text message he sent me:
''Dear___ ,So it's been long enough and I think you deserve an explanation for my absence.I've been drifting apart. mostly because I dont know what I'm doing right now.I need to get my life back on point and I just cant rely on you right now.And when I say rely on you,I mean for you to be okay with whatever life we would live together.There's a dream and then there is reality and right now its looking difficult for me becauseI cant seem to find a stable job.But Ive made a commitment from today and from nowIm going to change my a lot of my ways.And I cant keep this long distance relationship thing with us going anymore.No more photos,no more videos or anything like that.I really need to focus on my life right now instead of our life.I definately think we can work in the future but right now I need to focus on myself sincerely from the depths of my heart.I feel like part of the stress that put my dad in the hospital is my fault.I'll talk to you soon.''
So,essentially,I have different scenarios.
Either Im being let down easy,and this is my chance to exit.
Or,he wants me to wait for him to get his life together
Or he is calling it off but gave me a little hope while he runs away
Or he really means what he says.
Im very confused,first he cuts ties,and then says,yeah,we have a future.... Its confusing....
Its hard,its very very very hard,and I just want to know what to do.I love him dearly,I love his family so much.
He is struggling with jobs,and he wants a stable one,so he can get a place for us to move in together....
Thank you in advance for your advice (link)
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If this guy, took his time to write this, he means it. If I were you I would be proud, don't take it as a bad thing. Take it as this is your time to do the same. He came to the realization he needs to do something for himself and that's a wonderful thing. The way I see it, he loves you. HeS just stuck and need to find himself "you cannot love another until you love yourself". Let him do what he's gotta do, if you truly love him that's the best to do. Be happy for him and be there for him if he ever needs it. He will appreciate it more than you know.
Stay strong girl.
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Thank you so much!!! I took it hard at first,but now Im doing okay,in a way,what he did was an act of love to spare me from going through different emotions,and avoid taking his life out on me! Thank you!
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