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Last Update: May 31, 2015
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so about a month ago i was hooking up with the hottest guy at my university. i've always had a crush on him but i could live without him. it didn't bother me that he had a girlfriend last year i just thought he was cute. this year he broke up with his girlfriend and i knew it was my chance. our mutual friend told me he was interested in hooking up with me and therefore i did. i had sex with him twice and did everything else a bunch of times. this went on for three weeks. it was only 3 weeks but it was the best 3 weeks of my life. i remember the first time i ever saw him. and the first time he held me in his arms in his bed was so surreal. he ended things because he wanted to hook up with other people too, not because there was anything wrong with us. i respected him doing so and not dueling me and another so i let it him go do his thing. i was devastated but hid it.
you see, he thinks all i wanted to do was hook up with him. i guess we were friends with benefits. i never got the chance to tell him i really liked him. i wonder if i said anything, if he would've moved on from me to se other women? i feel like right now he's doing his own thing because he's enjoying being single, but let me tell you, i felt it with him. idk what "it" is, but i know thats how i want to feel with the man i marry someday. that "it" feeling is what keeps me holding onto him.
one month later and he has been with 2 other girls after me. i'm hurt yes, but i haven't showed any signs of it and when he ended things with me i acted like i wanted the same thing and to see other men. he has no idea i'm so wrapped up about him. i want to tell him but i also don't wanna scare him away from any potential chances i still have to hook up with him. please help me. what do i do? i miss him. (link)
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If right now you guys are nothing then you don't have much to lose by trying to fix things as long as you don't do anything to really embarrass yourself. I would first try running into him somewhere if you can arrange it to seem like a coincidence then maybe pull him aside and say something to suggest that u guys hang out again then take it from there. Try to be like I know we said we'd stop to let us hook up with other people but kind of miss hooking up with you, then once that's established you can feel it out and maybe after u guys hook up suggest that you make it more and see what he thinks, don't make it seem like a commitment neccisarily or that the discussion is about becoming exclusive more just about adding feelings into the equation meanwhile still allowing it to be casual for now. If you can't organize a casual run in then try texting him but keep it brief over text and jus say like I want a see you don't have this whole conversation on text.
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wow this is perfect... thank you so much. i need as much advice as i can get :)
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