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Q: I have been with my fiance since high school. We are both 22 yrs old now and have a beautiful 1yr old daughter. My problem with my relationship is I feel smothered. Not smothered by attention or affection, there actually isn't much of that because of me. He works hard for our family and our future while I staynat home. I love him so much and couldn't imagine my life without him...yet at times I want to escape. He is a very sensitive broody kind of guy. He was both physically and mentally abused by his parents most of his life and he has passive aggressive issues BIGTIME. I on the other hand keep all my stress and insecurity locked up and don't show are act like anything is wrong. His behavior sometimes makes me want to just run and disappear. Almost like his energy is choking the air and it feels heavy all the time. Yet he ALWAYS want's to spend time with me UNLESS he goes out with his friends. I personally don't have many friends and I am an introvert. But I want to find time for myself! But if I said that to him he would ask if I hate being around him or some BS! ugh Idk how to explain myself to him at all!
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I believe you are a bit afraid of him. He is, first of all, your partner, not your father. You have to pluck up the courage to tell him what you really feel about this situation. Tell him that you are having a hard time trying to cope with his behaviour, and the fact that he always wants to be around you. Being in a relationship does not necessarily mean that you have to be attached to your partner. You need time for yourself as well. You said he always wants to be around you unless he goes out with his friends; so he already has time for himself. He has people around him to talk to, and to whom ask for advice. You should spend some time trying to make friends. Trust me, it'll be good for you to spend some time with friends: so you can feel your relationship is not the only thing there for you to enjoy. Hope this helps a little :)
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Don't follow any advice,no matter how good,until you feel as deeply in your spirit as you think in your mind that the counsel is wise...Take it easy...but take it!! My aim here is to give good advice,not gentle words,but what I think is best for you to do;)
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Occupation: student Age: 27 Member Since: March 20, 2012 Answers: 166 Last Update: June 21, 2015 Visitors: 12771
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