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Hey there everyone.
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About two weeks ago I dumped my boyfriend. Truth was, I was paying for everything and never got much in return. When we went out or had lunch, I had to pay for both of us because he would always look the other way. I was too uncomfortable to ask for money from him so I just shut up about it. But it started getting me in trouble with my mom, because I was spending twice what I usually spent a week so she was noticing. I kept giving her lame excuses, but it started to bother me. Every time he gave me some excuse that he hadn't gotten paid. We were together for almost four months, and he never once took me a on a proper date. So I was stupid to let it go on for so long. I decided to finally end it because of all of this, and then two days passed and he suddenly had a girlfriend and he uploaded a picture of them kissing. Firstly, I deleted and blocked him out of every where but my friends still had him and they saw it. They took a screenshot and showed me. I was so angry. I felt used, lied to, cheated on. Because surely someone can't "move on" that quickly right? I started thinking back to all those times he would have to go away and talk to his "guardians" in secrecy. I feel pretty stupid about it. But worse of all, I made a "Kik" account a few days ago and agreed to let the app find friends in my contacts. The girl he's with showed up. So he probably used her phone to call me sometimes saying it was his guardian's phone. I'm so upset about this. I don't like him at all anymore, but this has hurt me more than words can explain. I've never gotten cheated on, and everything seemed to have been right in front of my eyes. Every night I cry before going to sleep, because it just infuriates me so much. A friend suggested I write a letter with my feelings and leave it at his house to get it out but I'm not sure that's a good idea. Any advice on how to let go? My family and friends are starting to tell me I need to get over it already. I just don't know how. (link)
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Ok - I misunderstood. Or maybe I was answering in a round-about way.
Perhaps the way to let go is just to see him for what he is. He's just one of those guys. Attractive people. Yes, he lied to you. Yes, he cheated on you. You know what? He will possibly never get what's coming to him, he will possibly lead a charmed life and die old and happy. **Life is unfair**.
All you can do is thank the lord (or your stars) that you had a brush with one of these people now while you are young rather than when you are older with a home and a career to lose.
Don't ever forget how much you liked this guy, how it *felt* to like him so much, and just what kind of user he turned out to be. Because one of the great lies in our society is how those tingly love feelings are just the most important things in the whole world, and how you should just always "follow your heart". It's bad advice. Your heart is an idiot who will get you into serious trouble.
There's no point being mad at this particular guy when the world is so full of guys exactly like him.
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Well yes but that's not really an answer to my question. I think you probably misunderstood. I don't have to decide if "i want to be one of those women", I know I don't. My question was how to let go of all this anger I have towards myself and towards him.
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