Member Since: December 22, 2014
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Last Update: December 30, 2014
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my girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We've told one another to block certain people on our social networks because of past experiences. She is now into these things with ultimatums. Stating that it's either something or her. She suddenly doesn't trust me out of nowhere and always accuses me of doing something I'm not supposed to be doing when Im not with her. It's getting to the point where our arguments are suffocating me. My best girl ffriend and I talked about kind of liking each other but left it at that due to the fact that we are both in long lasting relationships. My girlfriend found out and she hadn't had a problem till now. Now she wants me to block her and she wants to control who my friends are. I have to ask her permission to go hang out aND if she's not "comfortable" with it then I can't go out. Basically I am only allowed to hang out with her. She has done some great things I will always be thankful to her for but idk if that's the only reason why I'm staying in this. I don't want to block my friend because she nor I ever crossed the line even tho, to my gf, we did. I also don't want to block some of my friends cause they're my friends. I don't want my relationship to be based on fear and power. I told her I'd stop talking to them but not block them. To me, that is a compromise and relationships are based off of that. Am I right? Am I wrong? What should I do. Also, she is my first love since hs to now
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I have to start off by say trust mean everything in a relationship. One of the big problems is that your dropping so many friends for the one person. you have to take a second and see if its worth it. Do a pro and cons. You shouldn't have to ask for permission especially when you did nothing wrong. you seem un happy. what I would do is have a serious talk with her. In the long run you will never be able to stay because without trust there is nothing. You don't want to realize this to late. you don't want to wake up one day and realize you don't have anyone because you pushed everyone away. I recently came out of a long term relationship and I realized how important friends can be. At the end of the day she left but my friends where still there to catch me when I fell. You guys need to communicate to see why she doesn't trust you see if you can get any answers because right now you are not happy.
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Thank you for giving me the courage to face her about this. Seriously, I felt all alone. That was what she was doing: Isolating me so she could control me. I have dumped her and have talked to my parents about this. I wouldn't have lived if I had stayed. You probably saved my life. Thank you again!
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