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So I have really really low self-esteem to the point where when someone calls me pretty (which is very very rare) I never believe them. The only people that really compliment me are my parents and it's never about my face it's always about how curvy my body is, which is annoying. So basically growing up I've never thought I was pretty at all, my elementary school was kindergarten to grade 8 so I went to a school with the same judgemental people all my life. I remember in grade 3 this guy would always make fun of me and you know the saying "if someone makes fun of you they have a crush on you" but this wasn't the case it was flat out bullying. In grade 5 I remember this other guy said his brother said I looked like a man. In grade 6 I remember one of my best guy friends saying my lips were too big. That same year a boy finally had a crush on me but then this girl who I thought was my friend basically filled his head up with nonsense about me and made him dislike me. Fast forward to high school those same judgemental people now go to my high school. If you've read my previous questions you'd know I have this friend who is always talking about my appearance she's always making sly comments like in grade 9 she said that "you're so lucky you're not popular cause if you were I'd hear the boys saying you're so ugly", in grade 10 she told me she can imagine me with longer hair and makeup. Also that same year she had a boyfriend and my other friend made a joke saying that me, Chrissy and marissa were gonna steal her boyfriend and she said and I quote "I understand if marissa was gonna steal my boyfriend cause she's pretty" basically indicating that me and Chrissy were ugly. Also in grade 10 this boy had a crush on my friend and his friend made a joke saying that if he can't get with my friend he can get with me, he got so offended and repulsed he was like "chill....Let's not go that far". In grade 11 I was minding my own business talking to my friends when this boy just randomly called me "burst" which is slang for ugly. Then in summer school while I was walking past by these group of boys this one boy joked with his friend and said "hey that's your girl" and then he said "ew wtf man" and they all started laughing. I've never had a boyfriend my whole high school career or any guy friends either cause everyone at my school is superficial if you're pretty guys will automatically want to at least get to know you but if you're ugly like me you have to try talk to them yourselves and 8 times out of 10 if you're ugly then they won't really acknowledge you unless they wanna make everyone aware that you're ugly like that one guy did when I was minding my own business. Grade 12 just started so I don't know what it has in store but these are some of the factors that impacted my low self esteem it's so low that whenever an adult gives me a lecture on how I'm pretty I just bawl out and start crying because I know it's not true. Also if you've read up to here can you also give me tips on how to stop being so nice cause now everyone is taking advantage of me, like I'm so nice that one time a girl sneezed on my hand and I didn't say anything cause I didn't want her to feel bad. (link)
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Honestly I felt like I was reading my diary reading your question, I've had the same problem since I was a kid, and people would say stuff like that to me too. Just lately I've been really realizing I will never be any prettier, and feeling sorry for myself won't help. I try to pretend I have a high self esteem, just things like having good posture make you seem and feel more confident. Also, I think of the person that I think is beautiful, like a celebrity, and pretend I look like them.
There's this one girl who is so popular at my school, all the guys think she's so hot, and even I admit, even though I don't like her that much, I think she's so hot, she acts like she's the hottest thing ever and knows it, but actually when I look at her closely, she's actually not pretty at all, and she really doesn't have a nice body, but the way she acts, I'm so jealous of her! So just acting like your hot and confident can actually make you seem hot and confident.
Seriously, I am so sorry with what you're going through, I feel exactly like you; just people looking at me makes me feel so ugly, sometimes I would stay home from school because I didn't want to show my face at all. But we really just have to get over it because we can't change how we were made. My heart goes out to you and I will pray for you and hope that you can see how valuable you are because you are just as valuable as any other person, pretty or ugly :)
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I'm a natural w/ about 4a hair and I like to use shampoo, but I hear sulfate is bad. So I tried a sulfate-free shampoo but I like to have a some suds. I looked at tresemme naturals shampoo and that has "low sulfate". So, I'm wondering if that would damage my hair/ stop it from growing. If it will than are there any suggestions for shampoo that will did up but won't damage/ stop my hair from growing? (link)
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Yeah I'm in hairstyling school and even though professional products are always the best for your hair, low sulfate won't do much damage, my teacher say tresemme is a good brand and isn't bad for your hair, and I use it too so I wouldn't worry.
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I'm super confused. I was looking back at season 2. ian was pushed by alison off of the bell tower. then... his body is shown and the cameras show the horseshoe missing. That's how we know that it was A and that it was not a real suicide. Emily then discovers that the note was comprised of -A texts. So... according to Marlene, Mona was the only A before someone stole the game from her. HOWEVER
- Mona claims that she doens't know who pushed Ian off the bell tower... but she wishes that she knew who did
- Alison claims that she pushed him, but saw him walking out of the church. So, she was not the one to kill him (unless she did so after)
We know for a fact that -A was involved in this murder. But, Mona claims that she did not do it. Doesn't this PROVE without a doubt, that Mona was working with someone before??? (link)
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Yeah wasn't she working with someone all along? That's what I thought, maybe it was red coat who pushed him.
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