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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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So I am 16 f and I have been self harming for about a year, yesterday my friend noticed some cuts on my arm and called my parents, they were so upset as they had no idea that it had been happening. I think that they are angry at me and at themselves and they keep asking me questions about it. the problem is that is why i didn't tell them in the first place, I didn't want to hurt them or make them disappointed in me. When they ask me things like why do you do it and are you happy I don't know what to tell them, I do feel happy and I don't know why I do it. I guess it's just hard to know what to say to them to let them know it's not their fault and that I am just weird.

You're not weird you just have something going on that makes you hurt yourself. As a parent myself it hurts more when our children aren't honest or won't open up with what's going on with them. They want to help you but it's hard to help without knowing the details. Please go talk with them and I'm sure they will get you some help to figure out what is causing this problem. Maybe you're just bored and need to get involved in some fun activities since you say you're happy I hope that's all there is too it. If that's not the problem perhaps a doctor can get to the root of the issue. Maybe you are hurting or perhaps you have repressed memories. But your parents are definitely hurting feeling hopeless. They just want to help you. They aren't mad at you or disappointed. They are worried and afraid. So help yourself by opening up with your parents.

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(Rating: 4) Thanks, I hope you are right and they will be able to help me
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