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M/15
So most of the time I hang out with my freinds the subject of who would you have sex with comes up. My freinds usaly have a mental numbered list of who they want to have sex with and are shock when I reveal to them that I dont really think about that to much. Also they dont want a relationship with the people they want to have sex with. They just want to bang them and move to then next one and I feel like that thats messed up and it kinds makes me mad when they talk about girls like that. When I think of some one I care about I think of how we would spend time together or how I can make them feel like they are special to me. Dose that make me strange? (link)
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This is definitely a case of emotional and mental maturity. Yours is more advanced. Fact is, your mates are not going to spend their adult lives screwing their way through a mental 'list' of females. For a start, where is this inventory of available girls who do not want any sort of committed relationship going to come from? And what is so alluring about casual sex with these guys that they are going to be unable to resist them? They will form one-to-one relationships. And they will find that even the most in-love couple spend a relatively small amount of time actually having sex. And spending time together and making each other feel valued, along with all the usual daily events of life occupy much more time and require much more effort. You seem to have sussed this, they haven't yet. Theirs is not an uncommon attitude towards girls at 15. It's really pretty much a fantasy. I mean, come on. Are the girls really very bothered about which number they're at in their lists? A girl might feel flattered that she's the sort who many guys look at and want to have sex with...but do you think she's going to actually 'live it'? Adult life will in some ways come as a more shock to them than it will to you. They will have their values and ideas over-turned. You values will instead be reinforced. You are not strange, just mature beyond your years and confident enough not to play-act the attitude of your mates just for the sake of conformity (just to be 'one of the lads' as you might say). The only way a guy will live having constant un-committed sex with numerous different females is by working as a male escort!! And you can quite sure that the girls who feature highest on their lists will be setting their sights on guys who can offer a bit more than just sex. So how pointless are their fantasy lists anyway??
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