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Hey. I have a problem that I really need help with. So I got out of a relationship with a guy a couple months ago and I was really heartbroken about it, then a couple weeks ago a friend of mine said that he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend. Me being the idiot I am, said yes. I thought I liked him and it would help me get through the breakup with the other guy, but now I realize that I really don't like him. Also, I won't see him at all in person so I need to break up with him over text. Please help me. What do I do. Helpppp (link)
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I guess you picked up with the new guy 'on the rebound' to use an over-used cliche. Well you're not the first and won't be the last. Personally I would try to tell him on the phone, speaking. A text saying (in effect, however tactfully you phrase it) that it's all over seems a bit cold to me. But I'm maybe of a generation where it bothers me more than younger guys...perhaps texting is acceptable...but I still think it's cold! An acceptable approach may be that you just don't feel you want any sort of relationship right now, you want to be free to concentrate on what you want, without distractions or any stress? Needless to say "I just don't like you" is unlikely to please. OK, it is direct, honest and to the point. But remember that sometimes being 'straight talking' is actually a selfish thing rather than a quality. And a little white-lie can be much kinder, especially under these circumstances. Continuing a relationship based on an untrue premise is of course not defendable...but using one to end one more gently shows compassion and empathy and understanding if you handle it right.
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