Hey everyone!
I'm usually that friend everyone goes to for advice. (I'm also the one who gives good advice but doesn't apply it to herself, lol.) Whether I've been in your shoes, or know little of your situation I'll answer honestly and truthfully. I'm here to help.
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When I was 12 years old,I met a young man about 13.We met in church.We hanged out alot and we were close.He left the church with his dad who was singing there at the time.
I am 24 now and he is 25
I moved to another state,and he is still in California
3 years ago we got back in touch through Facebook.At first we were texting and talking always,and throughout this period we had times of seperation due to personal problems,not neccesarily with eachother. The times that we kept texting we just kept getting closer and closer.And we love eachother.
We are planning to see eachother in September.Ive saved money and Im happy.
The problem is is that I have beliefs.I am not Jewish,but I kep Shabbat and Bibical Feasts.And the Bible clearly states that I cant be un-evenly yoked with a non-believer.He does not believe in any of this stuff,whereas,I havent talked much about it.Hes very serious about me and wants to marry me.My mom is very strict about our Bibical beliefs and she won't have a heathen with her daughter.I also don't want to go to hell and lose the beautifullness I have with this man that I love.I feel torn.Should I stay or tell him goodbye and be with someone who shares in what I believe? I dont want to let him,even thinking has left me crying for hours at a time.Please,what do I do?? (link)
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Hey sweetie!
I don't know if you came to the right person for help with the belief-stuff, since I'm an atheist. But I'll help you anyway.
Firstly, I think it is so sweet that you guys found each other after so much time! So I assume you guys are just friends (with feelings for each other), but not in a long distance relationship.
I respect your beliefs but you love this man. It's a difficult situation: religion/love. Whether you go against your religion or not is completely your choice but if it were me, I would re-consider my religion.
This man loves you, and is willing to marry you and maybe one day, you'll have his children. You could have the happily-ever-after. It's something very rare; not everyone finds this opportunity.
I understand your Mom is strict, but you're 24, not 12. You rule your life, you make your own decisions and ultimately, if you choose your loverboy then it is you who will marry him. So forget about your mother, and think about you and your feelings.
"I also don't want to go to hell..." Here's where me being an atheist is a bit complicated. I, personally, think that heaven and hell were made for people who are scared of death. Basically, everyone. If good people were good then they go to a happy place (heaven), if they are bad or know of someone bad that person will go to a bad place (hell). Really it's simple, people would rather live their lives a certain way, follow rules, be obedient to other people just to assure a good place after death, if there is such a thing.
Sorry about my religion rant, onto your problem. I don't think you'll go to hell for pursuing a relationship with this man. Do you think it's fair to go to hell for being in a loving, happy, healthy and successful relationship? I don't.
Why do you think there's so many religions in the world? People have problems with their religons all the time. So they either change to a religion they find acceptable, or they just abandon religon alltogether.
So with all that said, I apologize if I drifted a bit off the topic. The whole religion thing really infuriates me. I hope I could help you in any way possible and I truly wish you all the happiness in the world.
Stop trying to make everyone happy, and make yourself happy.
Best of luck!
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Thank you much!! I understand you are an atheist.But what really quips me,is that Bible says in its big blacl letters not be with someone who is unevenly yoked,a non believer.I love my God and beliefes,and my man does believe in God and I want us to raise our children in HIM.Thanks dear!!
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