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My name is Juliet...I've done a lot in my life, and gone through hell and back many times. Which is why I'm perfect to give advice. I've gone through almost every relationship problem imaginable. Don't be scared to ask me questions. I'm on a lot, and I LOVE having this advice column. So ask away and I'll answer it the best I can. Also, I'm very blunt. If you ask me a question, I'm going to tell you what I think. I do NOT beat around the bush...or sugar coat things.
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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else?
Juliet here. I think, you should talk to your husband. He should be your best friend, so it should be somewhat effortless to have a talk with him. To me, and it's just me, it sounds like you're only thinking of yourself here, although you brought up your children. Have you thought about telling your family, look, I respect how you guys are, but don't act like this or do this in front of my children, or you will not see them. They're YOUR kids. As for your husband wanting to see his mother, it's very importnant to be near family. And usually, husbands are right about big choices like this. Maybe you should consider, doing this. Afterall, it's not going to be forever.
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Thank you so much! :)
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