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A little background, my boyfriend and I are 24 and 25. A month ago he got his second DUI. He does not have the means to pay for a lawyer so I offered to help. I gave my card to him to give to the lawyer but I never signed anything allowing my permission and what not.
Anyway, today I find out my BF has lied to me for about the millionth time (my fault I suppose for sticking around). I became so livid and the first thing I could think to do was to text him and tell him I am canceling the payment to the lawyer. So, I e-mailed the lawyer and got the card canceled. I have calmed down a lot since and feel like the biggest bitch in the world for doing that. I feel that I overreacted and am looking for advice on how to fix it. Thought about emailing the lawyer explaining I just didn't want anything charged till I could read an agreement. I don't know what to do just feel bad for actually going through with it.
I understand my BF was in the wrong for lying but ultimately I could have reacted differently. Just need help please. (link)
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I think you're making excuses for his behavior. You clearly state that he has lied many times over and over. Why do you keep allowing this? I know you love him but when is enough?
I am glad you were able to cancel everything with the lawyer. From what you wrote it seems like you have a very good heart but you have to let him pay for his mistakes. I know it hurts to see him go through stuff but if you are always there for him, he won't ever learn the lessons.
Don't feel guilty girl, you didn't do anything wrong. If he gets mad, just think of all the times he has lied to you.
Hang in there and I'm here if you need anything.
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thanks I appreciate it. You're right I don't know when enough is enough, he has admitted recently he is a compulsive liar. We are going to try counseling if that doesn't work then I believe there is nothing left to do.
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