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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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A little background, my boyfriend and I are 24 and 25. A month ago he got his second DUI. He does not have the means to pay for a lawyer so I offered to help. I gave my card to him to give to the lawyer but I never signed anything allowing my permission and what not.
Anyway, today I find out my BF has lied to me for about the millionth time (my fault I suppose for sticking around). I became so livid and the first thing I could think to do was to text him and tell him I am canceling the payment to the lawyer. So, I e-mailed the lawyer and got the card canceled. I have calmed down a lot since and feel like the biggest bitch in the world for doing that. I feel that I overreacted and am looking for advice on how to fix it. Thought about emailing the lawyer explaining I just didn't want anything charged till I could read an agreement. I don't know what to do just feel bad for actually going through with it.
I understand my BF was in the wrong for lying but ultimately I could have reacted differently. Just need help please.

Thank goodness he's your boyfriend and not your husband it's not your responsibility to pay for lawyer fees to begin with. Please don't ever give your card to anyone again. Hes so young and already 2 dui's! You should really find someone more responsible who doesn't put the lives of himself and others at risk. I promise you this is just the beginning of a lifetime of shelling out money until you have nothing left. Trust me I've seen it time and again. Let this grown adult figure out his own way of paying his lawyer. He can get a job or two or three. You're not his Atm. Please stop while you're ahead. There is no such thing as overreacting when you are lied to. That's truly one of the worst feelings in the world.

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(Rating: 5) thanks I appreciate it. You're right I don't know when enough is enough, he has admitted recently he is a compulsive liar. We are going to try counseling if that doesn't work then I believe there is nothing left to do. thank you for reading and answering
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