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Today, my mom asked me how one of my acquaintances was; she said he seemed depressed. I said that I didn't know, and instantly felt guilty. We had gotten to be pretty good friends at the beginning of the school year, and although we've never dated, I've had a crush on him for a long time and he likes me too. But around Thanksgiving, he completely stopped talking to me, and being egocentric and clingy, I thought that maybe he was sick of me or being standoffish or that he didn't like me in the first place and asked him why he was "ignoring me". But now that I think about it, he has seemed depressed, and that didn't even occur to me because I'm horrible at reading emotions and really, really egocentric. Thinking about how other people are feeling doesn't come naturally to me; I'm very empathetic, but unless it's obvious how someone is feeling, I won't think anything of it. I hate how I just assumed that he was ignoring me out of some negative quality on his part. He's finally started talking to me a little bit more lately, and I was just about to send him a message on Facebook when I noticed that he unfriended me.
I want to apologize, but I have no idea how to do so. If I ask him if anything is wrong, he's probably going to push me away, especially since we've never been close friends. I've been a really horrible friend in a lot of ways, now that I think about it. What should I do?
For clarification, I'm a sophomore in high school. (link)
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Your not a bad friend for not noticing this. Depression is often a taboo subject. So it is not you not being a bad many people don't know the signs of depression.
On way of saying sorry. Go up to him alone and tell him that you are here for him if he needs to talk and then say sorry for not being there before. Then try and strike a normal conversation.
Hope this helps
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