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Hi!
So anyway, I'm a freshman in high school and I'm jealous of my friend. I really don't know why I'm jealous of him, because there's nothing to be jealous of. He's pretty much a pale twig (it's awful but it's true). Is there any way to get over this jealousy without knowing the root of what I'm jealous of? Is there a way of keeping myself from being jealous? Any answers are appreciated, thank you for reading! (link)
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You didn't provide many details, but I'm going to take a wild guess here... you mention that he is a pale twig. In other words, you say that he's not that attractive (by your standards), or, at the very least, he's not more attractive than you.
I'm going to guess that he's comfortable with his appearance. Confident, maybe. And perhaps you are not. Does it bother you that someone whom you consider to be less attractive than yourself has more confidence than you do? Do you feel like he has somehow gotten confidence that he doesn't deserve, while you don't have the confidence that you do deserve?
You're going to have to learn to be happy with yourself. Even if he had low self-esteem, it's not like it would make your self-esteem higher.
I think that HIS confidence is the root of your jealousy. You can overcome it by focusing on your strengths without comparing them to anyone else's, and without imaging how others might compare themselves to you.
Best of luck to you! Jealousy is not a fun feeling, and I hope you figure out how to overcome it soon!
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Thank you. That's exactly the problem now that I think about it :)
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