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So i got my 1st period few months ago and i already had it few times, i always tried to tell my mom but i didnt know how to.. And one time i got it , it left red mark on my bed and she saw it and asked me what is this and i said i dont know and i feel horrible for lying to her !! Please help (link)
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You know, I did the same exact thing that you did, and the same exact thing happened to me, possibly for different reasons though.
I was very young when I got my first period (nine years old) and I was very much a tomboy. In contrast, my mother is very big about celebrating "womanhood" and all things that go with it, like taking me out to dinner and giving me presents when I got my first bra. All I wanted to do was strap the things down and go climb a tree, so the thought of my mother singling me out and making me feel all womanly was mortifying. When I got my period and she found out, she literally took our phone out on the back porch and called my entire family, crying tears of joy.
The important thing to remember is that your mom went through this too. Depending on our upbringing and knowledge, getting your period can be a scary or embarrassing thing to go through, and I guarantee she went through something similar. You know your mom best, so you could probably guesstimate how she would react to any of the following advice, but this is what I would do.
Go to your mom, and just say, "Hey, I didn't want to hide this from you or anything, but I just don't want to make a big deal about it...I just want to let it go, if that's okay," and tell her that you got it. If you feel horrible about lying to your mom, it tells me that you and your mother have a relatively honest and open relationship, and she'll probably understand. Like I said, she's been through it. Not many girls like to scream out to the world that she's gotten it when it happens to her.
If you don't feel comfortable confronting her face to face, you could even write a note. My mom LOVES passive aggressive notes :) And just say the same thing: Mom, I know you saw the mark on my bed, and I'm sure you know what it is, and I'm sorry I hid it from you. I wanted to tell you, but didn't know how. I just don't want to make a big deal about it. Thanks for understanding!
Honesty is the best policy. I can bet that your mom would be less upset that you hid it, and happier that you were honest with her in the end.
I hope this helps! Good luck!
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You have helped me SO MUCH! Thank you! She totally understood!
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