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Q: Hi everyone,

I'm a young teen, and I have been a Christian for most of my life. But I don't always feel like I'm meant to be a Christian.

I would like to mention that I'm lesbian, and I have known this for a long time. My church teaches that this is a sin and that being gay is a choice. But I certainly didn't choose to be this way.

They often say that people need to do what Jesus tells them to do, and they say that if you believe in Jesus, you will like the opposite sex. But I do believe in Jesus. . . .

People from my church sometimes talk about that verse from the Bible that condemns homosexuality. Yeah, I know. I read that several times when I was trying to become straight.
They also say that God hates gays. But I love God deeply and don't want to think that He hates me.

I don't think God hates anyone, not even people like me. He is all-forgiving and merciful. It doesn't make sense that he would hate.

I know it seems like I'm just saying my opinion. But I really want to find the truth. Does God really hate me? And is being gay really a sin?

Thank you for any advice! Please don't judge me.

Well, this I guess is just my opinion too but I do not believe God hates gays. He doesn't hate any of his creations. He loves us and he made us the way we are. Everybody says being gay is a sin but when God made you he knew what you'd be because God knows everything things that have happened already and things that will. At least this is what I have seen. If he hated gays or didn't want them he never would have created them. I can't really say if being gay is a sin or not because in my opinion despite the bible I don't think it really is and if it is it doesn't matter a damn bit. We are all SINNERS. There isn't one person on this planet who has not sinned.

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