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I'm a thirteen-year-old girl. In elementary school, I was mostly attracted to guys. I sometimes had crushes on girls, too -- but I always tried to ignore the feeling.
It got even worse in seventh grade, when I had a major crush on a female teacher. I couldn't always concentrate on my work because I was staring at her and thinking about how much I wanted to kiss her. I soon decided to accept the fact that I saw girls in the same way I saw guys.
I've identified as bisexual for a while now. I recently started dating a girl who also identifies as bisexual. I have dated a couple guys in the past, but I was never really happy with them. Having a girlfriend now makes me realize how much I love being with a girl.
It's been a while since I was actually attracted to a guy. Now it seems like I'm only interested in girls. And when I think about it, I feel like I would only be truly happy with a girl.
I'm completely aware that I'm still thirteen and that I might be a little young to be worrying about this. But I really wish I knew why I feel this way. Why is it that I was mostly attracted to guys in elementary school but am now hardly attracted to them at all? (link)
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Some people think sexuality is fluid. That it changes for people over time, or at least that it can, though it doesn't always happen.
Personally I think you just haven't met any guys your age or near your age who you find attractive. At 13 you're expressing yourself more coherently than plenty of college age women do. I had to go back and check to make sure, you didn't miss a single apostrophe. Kinda rare on the internet, especially in the "still live with my parents and it's not weird" age bracket.
Don't worry about it. You feel this way because you have a girlfriend and you really like her. It's pretty normal to find your attraction to other people drop off significantly when you're in love with someone. And also maybe because the more intelligent you are the less likely you generally are to find guys under the age of 18 attractive.
Lots of teen guys these days seem to be entitled bratty assholes. There were plenty when I was that age, I'm not sure if the numbers have gone up or if they're just more omnipresent because of social media. Either way, there's plenty to go around and you might well find yourself more attracted to guys later in life when we grow up and some of us turn into decent people.
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This is truly amazing advice. Thank you so much! I completely agree with everything you said.
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