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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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I'm a thirteen-year-old girl. In elementary school, I was mostly attracted to guys. I sometimes had crushes on girls, too -- but I always tried to ignore the feeling.

It got even worse in seventh grade, when I had a major crush on a female teacher. I couldn't always concentrate on my work because I was staring at her and thinking about how much I wanted to kiss her. I soon decided to accept the fact that I saw girls in the same way I saw guys.

I've identified as bisexual for a while now. I recently started dating a girl who also identifies as bisexual. I have dated a couple guys in the past, but I was never really happy with them. Having a girlfriend now makes me realize how much I love being with a girl.

It's been a while since I was actually attracted to a guy. Now it seems like I'm only interested in girls. And when I think about it, I feel like I would only be truly happy with a girl.

I'm completely aware that I'm still thirteen and that I might be a little young to be worrying about this. But I really wish I knew why I feel this way. Why is it that I was mostly attracted to guys in elementary school but am now hardly attracted to them at all?

I think you're just trying to figure yourself out. You are so young haven't lived a long life you will change 20 times before you're an adult; your feelings for intimacy, your clothing style, the foods you enjoy, your type of friends. You are human and have time and room to experiment. Just be careful and honest with yourself. You may very well just be experimenting and enjoying it. When I was about 15 i really had a huge crush on a girl although I always loved guys. i wrote her a letter telling her how I felt and she shared it with the whole school it seemed and I went to private Christian school. It was awful. She politely said she wasn't a lesbian but do you know several years later she was involved with a girl. Both of us are now married with children living straight life's. i'm still attracted to women but could never be in a relationship with one. I need a strong man to care for me. I just couldn't be with a woman in that way. So just take your time, have fun and see where it leads you. You have all the time in the world.

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